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I was less firm about what I wanted when my wife and I married, but I was definitely poly before I knew what the word was. I'm in the same boat as you guys, although my wife is trying very hard to be accepting. It's difficult, and therapy helps, but only if both parties are willing to talk. You...

My wife tells me that I was bitter, angry, and not easy to be around when we were in a closed relationship. Even talking about poly and agreeing to look to it has apparently improved my mood to the point where I'm tolerable (better than tolerable actually! hehe) Now, when we were in a closed...

Welcome! There's a forum lower down on this site that is for "finding people". It's under "Dating & Relationships". Here's the link: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=13 Good sites include OKCupid.com (regular dating site but it's poly friendly), poly.fm, and fetlife.com (which...

I want to know it all. My wife wants to know the important stuff and no details unless she asks for them.

There are people out there that would accept you as you are. I would love it if my wife had a live-in girlfriend, even if she was lesbian and I never got to participate.

The real question is, does he let the girls finish? Sorry. Can't pass up a Kanye West joke.

NRE is NOT AN EXCUSE OR JUSTIFICATION for shitty behavior. There you go. I'm guilty of shitty NRE behavior. Oops. Live and learn!

My friends gave me excellent advice recently. Most counselors don't advertise their poly-friendliness, but if you find a counselor that supports LBGT, they may be willing to help. I found someone that was a male and helped LGBT, so I asked him and he said yes he had worked with polyamory before...

Of course it is, silly. I would get that same tattoo (or a variation of it) if hand-tattoos weren't off-limits. I do wear a ring there, though, so maybe I'll get one underneath... hmm...

You gave him the option to be open and have multiple relationships. Instead, he decided it was a better idea to cheat on you. I agree with GG. Is this guy worth your trouble? He's going to be almost useless once he moves away. He hasn't been able to keep his promises thus far. How's he going to...

Yeah, that situation, for whatever reason, seems different to me. I don't know why, but it does. Gender markers that turn me on... hmm... I don't generally like hair of any kind (except for head hair, obviously) on anyone but me (and really not even on me but I look silly if I shave...

Tell RW not to give up hope. NY is a big place. At least he's not in Central Illinois. :) I'll have to check out poly.fm.

When "you don't act happy"? So, happiness is just some act where you pretend to be happy when you aren't? How does that solve anything? The fact is, you aren't happy, and as your husband, he needs to try to figure out why. It's not his responsibility to cheer you up, but if it's something he's...

I would argue that the reason you're finding difficulty in the monogamy world is not because you're a lesbian and/or dating other lesbians, but because you aren't finding the right people. I don't know your personality (introvert? extrovert?) but it sounds like you're picking people you clash...

I meant to respond to this earlier but didn't get the chance. Barring a few exceptions (such as your ex doing something for drugs), it's been my opinion that who you choose to have sex with is what defines your sexual orientation. That's part of what's in question now. I've heard some people...

All of that makes sense. But there is a difference in what you said in the last paragraph and what I mean. I do not find men "physically attractive," as in, I don't see muscles and think "damn," or see a penis and go, "Yeah, I want that." I do find them sexually attractive, as in, when I...

My wife, silly as she is, prefers to call it "baby birding" over "snowballing". She cracks me up.

I have yet to see anything on this forum where someone wasn't cool about it unless it related to cheating and dishonesty (which would be a pretty odd metaphor for a heart with a möbius strip weaved through it). To me it seems like it means infinite love. Based on the hand it could be a...

Yes, that's kind of where I see myself right now-- into the idea because of recent situations, not sure if it's just that, or if I want to fuck and date men now, too. My wife is up for everything. She wants it. She thinks it's hot I want it. The pegging thing is new, but works well so far. :)

I don't think I can honestly answer these questions until I try something with a guy. I don't know if I could ever have a full-blown relationship. The idea of kissing another guy is more of a weird thing to me than sex with a man. I don't know. My thoughts are confusing. I'm past the age where...