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Mormons? Someone's had too much wine. ;) Yes, Katie and I had/have a very real difference in opinions regards to all of this. We have worked through most of it. I'm happy to say that the man that typed all of those posts months ago is no longer who I am.

Yeah yeah, you blame me for everything. Welcome to the forums sweetie.

My wife finally decided (without my asking) to join this forum! Everyone welcome Rymmare!

I don't like that people confuse committed with monogamous. Monogamy is a form of committing. You are committing to only be with one person. I am wholly committed to my wife. Anything she needs, I want to be there for her. I am committing my time and energy to her. My love. Devotion. Everything...

Freaked myself out financially so first half of today has sucked. Second half is going better. I'm glad to know that someone relates and didn't just read that as bitchy-Kyle venting on some forum. :) I just want the opportunity to try the lifestyle. I haven't even gotten that yet. My wife has...

Thursday - Frustration Aplenty Today was a long day. Long day at work. Long day home with the kids. Long day with my family at my brother's birthday party. Long day after we got home. Long day fighting with my computer that wants to die again. So much more. It's been a long damn day. I'm ready...

Please warn all prospective mates. Many people are deathly allergic to even trace amounts of coconut. Coconut scented oil or lotion makes me nauseous but fortunately I am not allergic and I do enjoy the taste.

I'm a sharing person. I hate secrets and want both to be told and tell my experiences. My wife does not share this belief. She is willing to talk about stuff that's not intimate, but she only tells me the minimum of anything of a sexual nature. It drives me bonkers, to be honest. But everyone...

Tests are valid until the next sexual act (not simply intercourse) and then they are void. If you're worried about it, getting tested is not going to change that. Don't fluid bond with partners that sleep around. Sure, condoms only protect so much but still, that's why it's called safer sex and...

Thanks Rain! Things are going well. Everything takes patience and work, but it gets easier every day. Hopefully, I'll have more to post here soon.

I agree with arrow bound. Sounds to me like there is some NRE that is being confused with real emotion and it's hurting you. Get to a counselor. Fix your marriage. Having gone to one (albeit only twice) I can tell you they do work.

Sunday - Perspective Sight Sometimes all it takes is a well placed catastrophe to make you realize what you have. It's been well over a month since the last time I posted. Last time I made mention of going to a counselor. We went a second time and both Katie and I felt as though the second...

I had the same issue with the chart at first. Then I read the whole chart more closely and it made more sense. I think what threw me off was compassion. I think you should replace "how you feel" with happy and unhappy instead of good and bad. If something good happens and you are unhappy that's...

Ah, been a while since I've posted but this thread was something I couldn't resist (plus, computer is working again, yay!) I'm in the same boat as the OP. My wife has decided she's not interested in this lifestyle, or at least not interested in pursuing it. She's open to it, if it happens...

Every monogamous person I've mentioned it to (with the exception of one girl I know that wanted to date me) has said that it's not for them but more power to them. Sounds like your friends are not very mature yet. Let's focus on college stereotypes for a moment. College is the time when you are...

Having briefly studied LLC when registering my own business, I would have to recommend against using that type of arrangement for your personal life. That's a lot of headache for not a lot of protection. A simple lawyer drafted contract is much cheaper, only requires updating when you make...

I haven't finished it yet so I don't know if there is anything that would get in the way but as far as I can tell it is basically a book that tells you to re-evaluate yourself and your behavior and focus more on being selfless and being good to the other person. Day one is being patient, day...

Sounds like she resents the sex to me. Katie was like that. Be more into her as a person and worry less about the sex. It's hard if you're anything like me but pressuring her wont help. Look into the book "the love dare". It really helps.

So what if they are better than you at sex? So what if they have "more fun"? Those are subjective. You can have more fun in some ways or be better at specific things. Stop worrying about the other person. They aren't better or worse. They are different. Variety. An orange isn't a better fruit...

Your marriage sounds like its on the same path mine was headed towards before I took responsibility and started making changes. Our origin story isn't the same (Katie and I were not virgins and not outstanding Christians) but we were heading down the "sex isn't that great anymore" pathway...