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We don't have health insurance, so it's all out of pocket. The counselor cut her cost down some for us because of that, and she's working with us, but most sliding scale therapists in this town are also Christians. Not a big deal to me, but my wife is losing her faith in Christianity and taking...

Tuesday - Day of Reckoning We saw the counselor for the first time today. They are so damn expensive. It was money well spent, though, because it was a very, very good experience and very helpful. I felt very at ease talking to her and so did Katie. I'm not going to delve into it further...

Katie and I have been together 5 years. I can't remember the last time I've gone a day without touching her multiple times. She gets so frustrated with it because she is not a touchy person and I will literally cuddle and hug and hold forever. She just wants brief bugs and kisses. She's been...

The question isn't how you get over it but why you feel that way. Has he ever given you reason to not trust him? Are there boundaries you have that he feels the urge to cross? I trust my wife would never leave me for someone else. I don't know that for a fact and she fears I would leave her...

It's like you're my wife, from the future. Time travel is dangerous! She has some serious trust issues and I have always kind of seen that but I took it personally when I found out it encompassed me as well. Your post reminded me that it's not just me. She doesn't trust anyone. On top of that...

Tuesday is our first session. I just hope that we figure this out and are able to visit the open marriage again. Katie is my wife and I want to be with her forever. I just don't want to sacrifice a portion of myself in the process. I would if I had to, but it would be hard to deal with having...

Day doesn't matter Sometime this week my wife brought to my attention that she would rather focus on us than on other relationships. A lot of things were said and I can't remember them all. Here is what I can: 1. She feels I have emotionally cheated on her in the past and although I no longer...

One of my best friends believes I am a sinner, and doing wrong by God by allowing this lifestyle, and they called my wife a slut. It can be challenging, for sure. Don't let them dictate your life. Who cares how seriously you're taking the relationship? It's your relationship. Tell them to mind...

Insanity

Friday through Monday - Stripped Away Friday After work was a happy hour for me due to my recent change in jobs. Several people from work, plus my wife, attended. We had a good time and all things went well and eventually the night got old and there were only five of us. The same group of five...

When I read this, I thought about it for a moment. I wouldn't say more enlightened, but wouldn't you say we are more free-thinking and understanding? I had a conversation with someone yesterday and they said they believed getting a lap dance at a strip club was cheating. That's maybe a little...

In your first post you asked a question that seemed to go unanswered. To me it sounded as insecurity or self-esteem related. To answer your question of who would be willing to date a girl that already had a husband and boyfriend: me. I would love this setup. I have a wife and two kids and I'm...

There's a reason why it's called a private life. Did they need to know? Were they getting suspicious? I think if you knew this could be the outcome, and there was nothing to gain by telling them, you probably should have left it unsaid. As someone that is a blabbermouth, I often do what you do...

Capsaicin

I know but I am typically on my phone and there are quite a few posts to sift through. I'll search again.

Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday - Working Out Tuesday Tuesday was a crappy day. Katie was super stressed and although I had a good day at work when I came home I did something that I thought would help her and it ended up making her mad and we fought for a long time. Hurtful things were said and I...

Why do you say that your poly stuff was really an affair? I'm sure you discussed it before and if you know which posts link me and I'll gladly read through it. I took a quick surf and didn't find it though so here I am. Was her relationship permitted? Do you still get along? Was there...

You still had a point. People do confuse. It bothers me. Even if I were mono I would never control my wife. She can talk to who she wants she can hang out with who she wants she can do what she wants. One of my ex girlfriends cheated on me once with an ex of hers. I think she was more upset...

Has he ever given you a reason to distrust him previously? If not, accept what he is saying as true. He came to you instead of cheating, he is being patient while you process, and he has stuck with you for this long that it's clear he loves you and wants to be there with and for you. Some...

See, but even that is a problem for me. Being exclusive doesn't mean being controlling. I still let my wife be free to do what she wanted when we were mono. I trusted her not to cheat on me. They are all separate. People need to be more trusting. Mono or poly. Be more trusting.