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Wow, thanks for the replies everyone :):) Over and above how irritating it can be trying to defend and explain polyamory to people who just don't want any of it... the cynicism I was kind of talking about was more a question of: "I want to try this awesome thing, meet new people, learn some new...

I stumbled on this old Washington Post article and this quote struck me. …its practitioners (polyamory’s) have optimism for humans' endless capacity to love, share, forgive, grow and explore. But that optimism seems rooted in a cynical belief that the monogamous are stuck in a myth, one that...

Thank you for that :) You're totally right about fear... trying to narrow down the pool of things that I stress about to my own actions and what I can personally control has been the only way to stay sane, I think... Anyway, update: she has left. Things are quiet now, there are no resentments...

So sorry to hear about your health woes :( I don't know if it helps any, but I have sometimes gotten myself really worked up because I had this "if he does this, it means he loves me, if he doesn't it means he doesn't" idea. I mean, could it just be that your bf is stepping back because he...

I wonder about your use of "responsibility"... I never thought of it that way. For me, I am in a situation you described (or was - ha) and I think if I love or care for someone, supporting them in stressful times comes naturally and because I want to, not because I'm obliged in any way... But...

Even if you both agreed on the rate of development and the nature of your other relationships, it's not something you can realistically control on the ground anyway. I can't say whose right or wrong here, but I am of the opinion that the whole spirit of saying to your partner that they are...

Hey, thanks for the responses :) I sit down and look at everything, and I don't feel bad about any of the decisions I made, and I don't feel bad in myself for anything, but... Anyway, enough impotent whining :) I needed to just air some of this and I suppose get confirmation that I'm not some...

I’m fairly new to polyamory and in my first polyamorous relationship right now. I have been lurking round these forums for a while now, learning a lot (not posting as I didn’t really have anything meaningful to contribute!) but things for our little trio have gone badly pear shaped and I just...

Well, I don't know how interesting this will be to others, but it was a big deal for me :) I had agreed that it was time to meet my "significant other's significant other" but the situation was quite stressful as I guess you could say she was a little more "significant" at the time than me? :p...

If the other couple's relationship is already taking strain, and this guy has cheated on his wife etc., then maybe there may not be enough of a "store" of good will for it to pan out for them. Maybe it will be the last straw for her. Especially since you say that it seems to him more of a...

So, I'm new to this forum and new to polyamory in general. I am currently in a new relationship of only a few months with a man who has a long term relationship of almost four years. They are both new to the idea, too. So... I wanted to introduce myself :) Hi!:o I am happy that I stumbled upon...