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Fair enough, but to me "you should be able to talk about it" with regards to a personal opinion implies that someone has an obligation to explain why they stand where they do.

Not strictly. No one is ever under any obligation to explain why they stand where they do.

Sounds EXACTLY like where I was a year and change ago. Spookily so. Very long, sordid story short: hardcore mono and emerging poly do not mix. If you want to know the details and feel like they'd help, shoot me a PM.

I'm personally out to my friends and many of my coworkers. It just comes up in conversation when you're talking about romance. You mention doing all these things and it just sounds like too much for one person to do with another, plus if they ever meet one or more of your significant others, and...

Its possible that the DBT could be working but I'd still prepare for an explosion anyways.

Couple of initial questions. And no I didn't read the three pages previous. 1. Is this actually diagnosed BPD by a mental health professional or is this a label someone's assigned to her? (If yes, got to 2.) 2. Is this something for which she's receiving ongoing care? Either in the form of...

I strongly disagree. I've been in a number of caretaker roles through my lifetime and I don't find empathizing with a parent that difficult. As long as someone is familiar with what it means to be responsible for someone else's well-being for an extended period of time, they can extrapolate to...

No offense taken, just wanted to give you the heads up before someone got bent out of shape. That's a good place to keep working. Consider your own sexual desires, are they always the same? Are there ever times where, for whatever reason, are in the mood for something polar opposite to what you...

A long and bumpy road strewn with potholes is not mended by traveling on it further.

I'm going to be the one to run the minefield and play devil's advocate on this one, its a situation I'm not unfamiliar with. Before I start having to Matrix out of the way of coffee mugs, hear me out. When I first came to the concept of polyamory, I didnt really have the vocabulary...

It seems like there are two norms for the poly community: the average everyday-looking person, and the person that no one misses walking into a room.

Even smexy young people sex gets generally boring after a while. I'm watching Spartacus: Blood and Titties (yes I know it's technically Blood and Sand but there is an abundance of breasts, therefore I have renamed it after the two most prominently featured aspects of the show, though mostly...

The draft itself is unmitigated twaddle to begin with. I think we should sort that out before we worry if its sexist or not.

It's more a matter of exposure than anything else. I live in LA where the population is pretty diverse, so disabilities are fairly common and nobody really does much lookie-looing unless they're out-of-towners. Men are tied to the normative body for specific reasons. I'm all behind the...

Probably a good idea to broach the subject with boyfriend first. If he's totally opposed, there's your hang-up and there's no sense in getting second boyfriend in potentia excited about the idea only to have boyfriend shoot it down. Bring up the subject in a subtle way, maybe mention polyamory...

AFAIK, yes. No idea when, but I have heard whispers that it got green-lit. I know there's another poly show in the works currently but no idea who is making it. They're still trying to convince the suits its a good idea

That's part of the heartbreak of where I work; we have to discourage virtually all physical contact. And while I see the purpose, I think it does a grave disservice to the residents. I would go insane without some form of physical contact, its a basic human need that we essentially try to train...

I have never understood that kind of mentality. I work with developmentally disabled adults and they get more action than our entire staff combined.

Ahoy-hoy, welcome to the 'hood. A point of order (this may be considered picky by some but I feel like its important), calling poly a "lifestyle" can be taken as somewhat of a put-down the same way saying a gay person lives the "gay lifestyle." It it has transient, trendy connotations that dont...

This IS kind of a "seen it all" sort of place XD Red flag #1 Blue flag! (I dunno, what's the opposite of a red flag?) Well, dafuq? Does she want an open relationship or doesn't she? You probably should work through your own issues first before bringing Secundus Mentula into the picture. The...