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A slightly more accurate neologism for Portia, btw, rather than demisexual, might be gray-asexual. Sorta like being on the autism spectrum doesn't mean you're full-on autistic per se but does mean you're not what might be considered the neurological norm, gray-asexuality refers to the wide range...

Based on my experiences with dating a woman with a young child, and hearing my other friends with young children kvetch, I would say that "a decade-long break" from your relationship is vastly overstating it, but yes, having one or more young children does drastically take away from both the...

Well, this casts things in a very different light. Saying that the idea of your husband being with someone else makes you feel ill doesn't sound ridiculous, it simply sounds like your honest reaction. It wouldn't be mine, but it's yours, and it's not just something you can just up and change if...

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is not my story, but it could have been. I have a long time on-again-off-again partner, Davis, who has struggled with depression, who has been suicidal at times, and who has had difficulties with poly. It is not your fault. It was B's responsibility to get...

Here's a good counter-argument: me, a woman who's happily chosen solo poly so that I can enjoy multiple secondary-style relationships, because I've tried monogamy, including with a well-off and handsome man who should've met my need for "hypergamy" (if, in fact, I had such a need), and this made...

Oh hey, I found a picture of you guys: http://humoncomics.com/tamarin-daddy-daycare :D

So good to hear from you, and so happy to know that things are working more smoothly! :) Everyone responds differently to parenthood, it seems. Eric has loved every minute of it, whereas Gia has really struggled. On the whole, she adores Bee and would do anything for him, but there have been...

I call my dominant partner "Mister" when we're in D/s space together. It's a term of respect that's not as cold sounding to me as "Sir" is. I like the mouth-feel of it as a word. And it's similar to "Master" but not quite, which fits his role in my life. :) Best of luck on this adventure! And be...

Hey supergreat, It sounds to me like you've got a healthy mindset, but that you've found yourself in a situation that can be a real minefield. I applaud you for taking the time to think it through critically, and to not just say "this couldn't POSSIBLY apply to me/us!!!", which is what a lot of...

Hey, Cleo. I think you're being very level-headed about this. It can be so hard to know in advance what we'll find difficult. All I can really say, is that I have had relationships that were deeply kinky and ones that were perfectly vanilla, and they've both been equally important to me. The...

"Share your love and relationship." Share what you already have, as in fit her into your existing life, or as in actually try to build something new based on her wants/needs, the way you would in any other relationship? "Hoping she will love both" Hoping or requiring? "For a brief time"...

I just wanted to support you in this statement, RP. It is easy and tempting for others to give advice from the outside, but none of us were there, none of us know what would actually have worked or wouldn't have.

Oh geez, yeah, that sounds uncomfortable as heck. Time will definitely, definitely help.

Several months ago, Eric accidentally sat on Bee's foot and somehow managed to break it! It was a huge shock for both of them, as you can imagine. Bee got a cute bright red cast, told the story about a thousand times, healed quickly, and promptly went on with his life. I feel bad for poor Lin...

That is a new level of bad right there. Wow. Sooooo so so not okay. Does he realize that??

Please read the "So Someone Called You a Unicorn" essay that Nycindie linked, if nothing else. It's a good one. As for not scaring this woman? Sorry, there is no non-creepy way to invite someone to be "added to your relationship", because it's inherently creepy. It shows a fundamental...

Not to mention that, as playfulgirl pointed out, your info is going to be incomplete at best and offensive at worst because it's designed to not include any input from the non-married partners in the relationships in question.

Yeah, the very second question -- "what is the sex of your partner" automatically doesn't work for anyone who's in multiple relationships and doesn't consider one of them to be "THE" partner who's obviously the one to describe in any situation where a partner needs describing, which can...

You're a strong, kind, smart person and you will get through this! I'm so sorry it's been so hard lately.

Updates... No major changes in my relationships with either Gia or Clay. Davis and I are taking a break from sex. I started to really not want it with him, and he respects that, even though it pains him. I have NO IDEA why my body and heart are so schizophrenic about that boy. I've often told...