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"One major part of polyamory seems to be the sex" The only reason for this is that one major part of romantic relationships is generally sex. Of course, it doesn't have to be. There's nothing special/different about poly in that regard. My girlfriend and I went more than a year without having...

Thank you thank you thank you! :D That's awesome to hear. I always wanted to write fiction, but I've always been crap at it. Creative non-fiction, though, that I can do. You're welcome to change the names and some of the details and use this as an example if you'd like. Hee, I feel like the...

I feel like I've introduced a number of new characters pretty quickly lately, and that that might make this confusing to read. So! Here are two hopefully-not-too-identifying facts about each of the people in my signature line, in order to help flesh them out (and because it was just fun to make...

No worries. No one is expecting you to be perfect, even if sometimes we come off sounding judgmental. We just want to help you avoid things that seem like good ideas, but that haven't generally worked out well for others.

For the record, the sex-positive people that I know accept that asexuality is real and valid more easily than most of society. Being really secure with sexuality means being accepting of sexual differences, including the desire NOT to have sex. You can also do BDSM without bringing sex into it...

Hear hear. Not only that, this is an ineffective strategy for controlling jealousy. All it will do is make it so that you witness every caress, every kiss, every moan, every shudder in person... which is cool if you're just into the voyeurism and group sex aspects (though they would still...

"I think I would be okay with him exploring too if I'm part of the exploration." You may wanna consider the fact that he and one or more of these women may develop feelings for each other, and you then being present/involved/a part of things/whatever may not be such a feasible option any more...

It's different, being with someone who has so many people in their intimate network (I'm talking about Clay, in case you couldn't guess). When I think about the other people he's involved with, I feel... hmmm, it's complex. A drop of jealousy/envy (he's seeing that person that night? but what if...

My life is crazy this month. I'm rehearsing non-stop for an upcoming play, dealing with stressful stuff at work, prepping for a weekend kinky camping trip with Clay, planning a week-long solo trip out of state next month. It feels like almost too much. The solo trip will be good for me, I think...

Same, by my name. It's special to me, because he's so young that he very rarely addresses anyone by their name, but he knows mine and says it regularly. He can sometimes be prompted to say someone else's name, but the names he really knows are "Mama", "Daddy", and "Anna". :)

Ha, yeah, I said that in an odd way -- what I was thinking was that, in many people's accounts that I've read, scheduled dates seem to be a given for secondary relationships... how else would you ever get alone time with a partner you don't live with?... but are not always a part of primary...

I've known bipolar people and those who have dated them. My impression is that unless they are very proactively managing their condition, it's always going to be the sort of confusing roller coaster you've described above... though honestly, this sounds crazier than most. I don't know about...

Definitely definitely stay out of it. I'm a geek gamer myself, and I know that our kind get way too serious about this sort of thing, poly dynamics aside. There's really nothing you can do that won't either make things worse between them, make them mad at you, or both. You can tell them, kindly...

I'm a big believer in the value of scheduled dates for primary couples. If/when you guys have one or more kids, it will make even more sense to schedule time... at least that's what I've seen in Gia and Eric's relationship, if they don't actively schedule time alone together it just doesn't...

I honestly don't think it's possible to share too much as long as you don't provide any identifying details, which you didn't. We're all strangers scattered across the globe with no hope of ever finding out who you really are or affecting your real lives... so what's there to be embarrassed...

I’m going on a trip to Tucson, AZ for a week in July with no particular itinerary except to attend a friend’s wedding and then relax as much as possible. I’ll be staying at a hostel in the heart of the city and plan to do most of my exploring there, though I might rent a car for a day and go see...

Ahh, ok, cool. Their reluctance to be involved without you makes me feel like maybe one or both of them still isn't really comfortable with poly, deep down, which seems to be at the heart of a lot of MD's issues. Hopefully they can do some of the same work you've done. As for the cowgirl thing...

I would ask for clarity before moving forward with any lover who was acting like that, poly or no. It's reasonable for her to be confused, but not for her to jerk you around. She needs to work on what she wants before re-engaging, and I think it would be wise for both of you to keep some...

I had the same reaction as others. This sounds exactly like depression to me. My mom has been hospitalized for depression more than once, and two of my three current partners are also sufferers. (As weird as it is to say on a topic like this, I guess I... have a type?) My point is that the signs...

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/i-have-herpes-and-its-not-the-end-of-the-world/ Really good essay.