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*blushes furiously and throws heart-shaped plushies at Bold* No, you are.

I'm introverted and poly. Just sayin'.

Hello, and welcome to the forums. If this is her belief, then you are already cheating on her, emotionally, I'm sorry to say. I was concerned that this was my partner Bold's belief also. He's told me that he doesn't mind me having feelings for others, as long as I don't pursue romantic...

My partner struggles with this concept too. The only way I could think to explain it for now is that I am completely satisfied in my relationship with him but he cannot, and likely never will be able to, satisfy me in my relationships with others. For him, being monogamous, I satisfy his...

Thanks for clarifying. I still think we see things very differently. My main objection, I think, to your first post was that this line: ...implied, to me, that you were bringing into question if I am just a mono missing her partner or actually poly-amorous. From past experience and self...

The potential other is long distance too, in the same country as Bold. I know that it's not just me missing the sensual elements of a relationship, because the idea of physically having sex with someone other than Bold, at this time, makes me sad, because I'd just be wanting him or missing the...

Hi, I'd just like to clarify a couple points: BBFs with benefits was my term, not D's (my ex), but he said he would most prefer something between a distance friendship, with the freedom for us to connect sexually both in person and otherwise, if he could possibly choose. I asked him what he...

Ahem, um... I can't speak for the entire male species, but I know that Bold doesn't want a threesome unless it's for me. He's stated that a fair few times now. He used to tell me that he was into the idea, but he was actually stretching his feelings on it further than he really felt. He said he...

I second what monaural said about timing! (But, as a pansexual poly, I want to just mention that 'taking on a girlfriend instead' is not as easy as it sounds. I can't choose who I fall for by gender, honestly. It's not a matter of picking out a pair of jeans, for me. You probably didn't mean...

Way ahead of you! And yes, it helped me to read and relate. Thanks for making that thread and sharing that part of your life/relationship. I don't feel he is selfish. I have been very confused by his need to keep me for himself, but I am learning to accept his needs as a monogamous person...

Hey Christie :) Wow, we're a lot alike, hehe! I'm a survivor too (though I don't consider mine to be all that bad but I do have a tendency to downplay it, maybe it's denial? Not sure.) and I'm strangely open despite trust issues. I think sometimes I'm too open and it confronts people with...

I fantasised about being a unicorn before I knew what one was! Hehe. It's not really an option at the minute, though, so I guess there's no need for packaging. :p

redsirenn I see your point, yes. I do have a bit of abandonment issues, which I am working on, but that is most definitely not my motivation for seeking a poly lifestyle. If I feared abandonment that much why would I risk upsetting my partner, who is monogamous, by suggesting that I need other...

Haha, heck no! But I am working toward accepting it. I don't understand physics, yet I can bounce a ball and enjoy a rainbow. My man is beautiful like that. He's a puzzle wrapped in loveliness wrapped in sweetness. I'll continue to enjoy him, even if I can't understand him on the level I once...

Honestly, I would say that it's not his business, specifically, what the details of your relationship(s) are. I know a lot of bosses try to make out "I want to know so I can help," but if you're not comfortable, even if he reacted well to it, then you don't have to share. It's your choice. If...

Hey there and welcome, I'm poly and my partner is monogamous and we're working through if we can both be comfortable with me having other partners. He's very important to me and I want to keep him in my life, preferably as my primary partner, so I'm taking it as much at his pace as I possibly...

Hi monaural, I'm sorry you're hurting. My partner is monogamous and trying to come to terms with having a poly girlfriend. Unfortunately for him, I didn't make it clear how important that part of myself was when we first started dating (because I didn't actually realise how vital it was and...

Eep, epiphany moment! Guilty as charged! I didn't realise it, but I totally have NRE for poly. Gosh, maybe we're already in a poly relationship. I married polyamory itself while he wasn't looking. haha Seriously, though, I have been very insensitive toward Bold over this whole thing, partly...

Wow! Thanks for all your replies. I emailed my love and his reply was wedged between two reply notifications in my inbox. I felt like I wasn't facing this alone! I just quickly wanted to clarify a point: I didn't understand this before, but what he meant by asking if I would be willing to...

Wow, I'm in a very similiar boat to you, inlovewith2. My partner is monogamous (and happy/proud of it) and I have only come to realise during the time I have been dating him that I *am* poly, not that it's a lifestyle choice which might work for me. I still can't explain about the reason why I...