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Mono, would you mind sharing your experience with reconnecting. I don't think it's been discussed on the board before... I could be wrong. But reconnection that allows sexual intimacy is a topic that hits close to home at the moment and I would love to hear anyone's experience with this.

I'm curious as to how exactly does the answer to your question relate to your decision. What's the motivation to find the answer? Are you hoping that if it's a choice that in the future she will choose diferently or is the sudden news easier to swallow if it is written in her dna? I feel for...

My boyfriend and I live 3 1/2 hours apart. We see each other one weekend out of the month. two if we are lucky. What works for us is having a routine and then adding extra when needed, never taking away unless absolutely necessary. We talk 4 times a day minimum. In the morning, for lunch, on my...

The words that I have found to explain how past sexual abuse (even attempts of sexual abuse) made me feel is that they took my face away. What I mean by this is I was no longer a person. They saw me as a vessell to achieve they're own self indulgent satisfaction. This to me right here is what...

My way of explaining that there is no need to compare is this. My fiance... There is only one him in the entire world. Sure there may be someone who looks just like him, maybe in a physical sense this "twin" is trimmer and therefore I "should" be more drawn to this other one. But does this...

Being one who always has questions and isn't afraid to ask them I learned they have an answer for everything! And the majority of the time they will make sense. But I'm not sure how outsiders decide to be with a JW... It throw me off. My mom got into it when I was two. She had been married to my...

Sigh... This makes me sad. Yes I was. And I've been where he has been. Each congregation has it's own level of "cultness." I was lucky because my father was not JW so I had access to the outside world. Also in my last years I moved to cali and the congregation there was... So different. It was...

You see as soon as I hear or read the word God in the same sentence with something of hate I hit the off switch. I have a pretty extreme religious back ground from my childhood. No celebrating holidays (they are pagan), no birthdays ( "God banned it because John the baptiser was killed"), blood...

Well, my date night this Friday was supposed to be an after hours picnic at a beautiful recreation center. Cheap wine, a few goodies to go with it, a blanket, and a starry sky. But unfortunately it's raining! So we are doing an indoors picnic instead. It sounds like you have a day date. I enjoy...

No this isn't the case. He very much wants to try us out first.

That my dear is exactly what we plan on doing x) It was brought up by him yesterday (the fear)and we were going through the motions of talking it through and we let it swallow us up I think. PS. Where were you yesterday when we needed you! Hehe In all seriousness though I think our biggest...

In my first post I put this. Being that this is all a fear of his and there actually is no girl yet it's only a brief mention of her just to note that I had pointed out concern for who ever she may be. Let me clarify that idk how I would have relationship with her BECAUSE I would see this as...

I don't thinking needing something from someone specific is a bad dependency. It's like a mother's or father's embrace. Each give you a different sensation. Sometimes you need the strength of your fathers arms to feel safe and sometimes you need the softness of your mother's embrace to feel how...

Okay, after talking with my fiance I may have found a better way of voicing what I'm thinking. I have read everywhere that if something is missing in your relationship it won't get fixed by seeking someone from the outside. THIS is what I've been trying to say.

I don't want to hold back his journey. I don't want him doing something he is continuing to say even as we are on the phone now that he doesn't want to do just so he can stay sane and be with me. As I love two men I know that when things go sour between my fiance and I, my boyfriend can not help...

Okay.... So I'm going to put the response I get every time I ask if he is poly. "I know I'm capable of it, but don't want that. If I have to be to keep you then I will." I also want to clarify when I said I'm poly because I'm capable of loving two people. I need to add and because I want to...

I thought it was magic! lol He and I talked further this afternoon and he will be coming on here later (hopefully not too later. I'm so damn impatient!) to add his input. Basically, I've asked him several times before if he is poly and I always get the same answer from him. Which he said he...

If my feelings are wrong, then so be it. I just want to know who has gone about it in this way before and what the outcome was.

I supported my fiance though my transition. I didn't tell him he wasn't enough and expect him to lovingly support my replacing or supplementing him. It's hurtful. If we wants to add that's one thing. Substitute is another. He's saying it's his needs for me. He doesn't want to be with anyone ect...

Um... Wow. It totally made a poll. Didn't mean to actually make a poll. Sorry yall.