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Actually, I think this very much coincides for me. I really do feel guilty for taking that one weekend a month. But I tell myself the same thing, that I do love her just as much and that it gives her and my fiance some much needed Daddy-daughter time. I know when I was a child, my fondest...

For those with children I'm just curious about where you tell them you are going on a date or leaving overnight. My boyfriend lives out of state, so I'm gone from Saturday morning before she wakes until midday Sunday, once a month. I tell her I'm going to visit family, but the last time I said...

uhoh! I'm on my new phone and it won't let me edit and it's got a teeny weeny keyboard! I'll try to get on tonight to fix my horrible typos.

I completely agree with GroundedSpirit. Sit tight LR and have faith that both of your men will handle this appropriately. It seems like you want them to prevent it this time around. The problem with that is years have passes and these men may have grown a bit in their own lived and may be less...

I think it is great, as well. He has ADHD, so when he is dealing with big things his thought process can become very confusing for himself and for me. By him finding a quiet place to sit and focus on one particular issue at a time, we have found more clarity or understanding of what the other...

Minesweeper Is what I feel like we are playing right now. Normally people have a few triggers. Trigger A will make me happy. Trigger B will make me sad. Trigger C will make me scared. Trigger D will make me defensive or angry, etc., etc., etc. As we get older we start recognizing that we have...

I actually posted about this on the triangulation thread. You never imposed and we were always grateful (and continue to be) for the outside insight. As I said before you translate my heart so well, more than I was able to at times and you speak boy, which I do not. As he said he doesn't...

Being a person who likes to handle my own problems I've never asked someone to tell so and so to stop doing this or that. Its silly to me. My fiance did this when I first came out as poly. He didn't want to speak to my now boyfriend at all, but he tried to communicate with him through me...

The past few days. The past few days have been filled with letters. Its obvious and he admits that he has kept me shut out for quite some time. So many things he's been keeping bottled up that the letters help him organize each one. He has adressed some very big issues that we have had...

Hi and welcome. These people are an amazing bunch good for you for finding it before any meltdowns! It may prevent them from learning from other's meltdowns. May I suggest xeromag.com as well. Its got great articles! Oh and FYI, I'm totally stealing Throuple! hehe

It would be very nice, but I've worked out a few biggies without counseling when I really needed it, so I know we can figure it out if we stick to it. And I've become more hopeful. But I'll post about that tonight.

Hey, Mr Sassypants, this is my post and I can show gratitude if I want to. So... Xp

Just so you can blend the stories, this is my amazing boyfriend : )

I completely agree with, Ygirl. I never agree to anything until I have full knowledge of what it entails (is this a long term swap or temporary) and also everyone's intentions, concerns, and feelings. As to the why of the wife. There have been times when I am not getting my needs met I...

The problem is our combined income really isn't that bad. But we are paying his back taxes right now from a few years of him having a 1099 job, so we are tapped out with that. He's working 2 jobs right now to help out, but it will be at least 2 years before we get it knocked out. Anyhow...

I would love counseling, but currently we just don't have the funds for it. So we've no choice but to try to sort through this on our own.

Unfortunately, that's exactly right, and something he admitted to in the second letter he gave me tonight. He has been "faking it," as we have identified it. Making it seem as though he's met my needs (respect, comfort, support), when he really has not. And yes, for the past several months I've...

So I jumped into a hot bath and read my letter, cried, then read it again. It was a letter about our past, a very bad time in our life, told through his eyes. Something I have never heard before. With one letter (6 pages long) a grudge was released. A little less on my pile. My questions of why...

Oh my! I L.O.V.E. this! My loves always tend to break the mold. They always consider themselves odd, or a "freak of nature," or just "nothing special." But to me they are amazing! I want to explore every detail of their beings because they are so beautiful to me. Your whole post hit me like...

I answered about my daughter in my response to Ceoli. This is my last attempt, and I'm not even attempting yet. I am taking the time I need for myself before I even think of it. And she will be retaught. I was clear that I am aware of what I am teaching her. I'm not making one single excuse of...