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Thank you. That's all I needed, an ear to listen to my fears that this was a sign that he indeed had not changed. The fact is he didn't repeat the same apology last night that he always does. There was a lot of pouring out of his soul and apparently there is more. There is a letter at home...

Question for you: have talked to anyone in your poly dynamic about this? What I see is a huge inferiority complex that seems to be overwhelming you. He's got a better job and is wittier than you... and? You're doing a whole lot of "if onlys." It's a big waste of your time. Besides working out...

I personally like the idea of braided metal. I've seen it in gold rings. Its permanent intertwined annd held in place with one solid bond. But I think that a symbol of commitment is something that each group should work on together. Maybe you could have a brainstorminng date. Everyone do a...

Answer 1) I don't think I am gaining anything at the moment. But I am trying to get to a place where I can gain back my companion, my friend, my family member, the glow I used to have every time I looked at him and said, "Yep, this is who I'm spending my life with." I had a revelation last...

Sigh... I realize after some reflecting and discussion that I had what we call "a moment " tonight. What happened tonight is small, and my boyfriend pointed out that I should dig deep to find out why I had such a big reaction to it. I've come to realize that I am adding indiscretions to my...

Bumping to let you know I did a last minute edit. I appreciate having a someone there when I just needed to scream out my frustrations. I feel better now. I'm just going to take tonight to gather my thoughts and speak about it tomorrow.

Lol, not at all, Mono. The short answer is because that first post took everything out of me for the night. Any and all outside perspectives are welcome. All the idea can lead to is a conversation, and in my eyes, any conversation is a good conversation, even if the answer isn't something you...

I will share this post with him and see where the convo leads.

If that's what he wants, he can just go. There's no reason for the theatrics or to lie and say that he wants to save our relationship more than anything in the world. I could ask him if that's what it is, but would he tell me the truth? Would I believe it if it was?

Okay, brace yourselves, because I am mainly a lurker and this has building for months, so it will be a long one. It all started probably around the time of my icky can of worms. My fiance (C) and I had that initial one connection and then things took a terrible turn. He started becoming very...

Thanks, Lemondrop. Oddly enough, we have been trying to sort through the rubble of last week and my fiance actually brought it up last night. That he says it all the time, but he's not showing it. He is having to do a lot of soul searching to start his self improvement and I am trying to get...

Sigh. Lemondrop, I hope we can achieve what you and your husband have.

GS, It right on point. Be grateful... Please be grateful for the love you have. Unfortunately at the moment my Fiance and I are on very shakey ground. There are massive holes in our relationship and he is using those 3 little words to make patches... but theres still a hole underneath each one...

Bear with me ya'll because I'm doing this from my phone yet again. So I can't quote anyone for my response. I completely agree to with the idea that all people involved need to be in the relationship 100%. I think that for me 100% means give and take with understanding of everyone elses needs as...

No worries, divinstress. I am also a lurker for the most part. I only post when there is something I cannot find on the board already or when there is a topic that actually have enough experience to have valid input. I'm new to the poly lifestyle and am a work in progress so I don't feel...

Thank you, lovey. And thank you girls for understanding! I thought I was the only one with extreme sensitivity during "that time" Why oh why did it have to come early. I guess it's better than coming late. teehee

Also, just wanted to say about my issues with them dating others, they currently don't "want" to see anyone else, but we do have talks about such things taking place. I don't want anyone thinking I'm being controlling or having a double standard. I just kinda blurted that out in the middle of...

Okay, so we haven't "come out" and I have no one I can talk to because of it. After months of prepping my friend and I are going on our first official date this weekend. It's out of state so I will have to spend the night. My fiance hasn't dropped the boundary of sex yet so I have been thinking...

My fiance had/has the same fear as well. What we boiled it down to is: where we are now in our relationship, and where do we want to be? Currently, I am completely committed to him and I have no desire or need to be without him. I love him dearly and I choose to have him as a life partner...

You hit the nail on the head with this one. Not to hijack, but I am doing quite well. I lurk almost daily, but being at the beginning stages is time consuming. I haven't had time sit sit in front of my computer probably since my last post and I really hate typing on this phone. But I will do a...