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Wow, do I wish I had the answer to that! I don't know what your living situation is with them, but speaking from my own experience, when you are not living with them, it can be very easy to feel slighted, excluded, insecure at times. All I can say is that every piece of advice given to...

Arrowbound, you are right. He tells me that I make him feel like a man. Otherwise he's asexual. He's admitted that it hurts him that she rejects him, attributes it to low self esteem on her part, she feels as if she is unattractive. My question is, if he believes that, how does he think he's...

PS. Regarding telling your family and friends..... I didn't tell anyone the full extent for a long time. He was just a boyfriend I had. In my opinion, it was nobody's business. Now a handful of close friends and family know, as they began questioning why we weren't pursuing living together...

Hi! Welcome :). I have been in a similar situation as yours now for almost 2 years. He and I are now deeply in love with each other. Yet, still it seems that every few weeks there is something new for us to manage and work through. But we try. I don't have the answers you are seeking other...

Nicraq, you have a good point. And you're onto something based on the literature that you've quoted. Where this probable "competiton" comes into play for me is that Jared had told me the reason that they opened their relationship was due to sexual issues. Julie lost interest in him...

Jane, thank you so much. It's great to know that I'm not alone. Swear it feels like I'm on an island in this. Nobody to sound out these thoughts with, so they swim around in my head, sometimes swirling like a tornado! I agree with all of your comments and feedback! You're right, you...

Hi nycindi, thanks for your thoughts. You're absolutely right, I did say that it was 100% honesty between us all. However, my dilema is that, because of her illness, he is super defensive of her. She can do no wrong. I have tried in the past to express my concerns over her...

Affair? Wedlock? I agree. Buh Bye. Obviously this first-time poster has issues with this whole deal. No, it's not an affair. No, it's not a secret from her. The three of us have even travelled together on vacation. She has issues, no question. How she really feels is anyone's guess. I don't...

I call it another module in the Learning Curve of Polyamory. I'm new to this lifestyle and have been wading my way through for the past 21 months with this amazing man. We have a V relationship. I am the single girl...he's in a committed relationship with a woman. They live together. I live...

Wow! Thank you, everyone, for such great advice. :) Now to try to answer the questions... Yes, Julie does know about my relationship with Jared. He sleeps over at my home at least once a week. She seems very accepting of it. He will hug and kiss me in her presence and she seems fine. I've...

Thanks for the reply, NYCindie. :) Jared and I have talked about it in the past, but at that time, Julie was unresponsive to any physical affection from him. Now she appears to be initiating it somewhat. Part of me is happy for him, because I know he misses that aspect of his relationship with...

Hi! I'm a divorced (when can I just call myself single again? haha) mother of 2 who is involved with a man in an open relationship. His partner opted out of sex several years ago then developed a serious illness a few years later and has agreed to him having a girlfriend. She and I have met...

Hi all, I've been searching the internet far and wide to find advice and support for those of us who are the "other woman." I became involved with my guy, Jared, just over a year ago, when he explained that his relationship with his significant other, Julie, was now void of all physical...