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Kevin, I think we all appreciate that you are trying so hard to help this person but she is so full of hatred and contempt, devising many manipulative and hurtful tactics to sabotage this relationship between her husband and the woman he is involved with. However, it is very disheartening to...

Other than his relationship with you, is your boyfriend single? Is your girlfriend single? Is there a fear that they will develop a closer bond and at some point you will be shut out?

Pina Coladas for D - #1000 YAY! Time to put the serious stuff aside as we celebrate DH's post #1000 with a round of pina coladas for all! :D D, your commemorative barrel of 10W50 coconut milk is enroute for the next party. I sent my RSVP! Hope you got it!! :p :D

It's a treat when my boyfriend calls me. It doesn't happen often. He's strictly electronic with me. Alot of it is a privacy thing, no real private time or place to talk during his day/evening. And he hates talking on the phone. Between dates we always text or email. And that can cause...

With Mono people, it's not about having a Primary of their own with a poly Secondary...they are Mono, remember? The Mono person will typically want only one. Hence the term MONO. Leaving the relationship isn't usually an easy option as Mono people have feelings of love and commitment, too...

Excellent advice! Communication - sounds so easy but wow can lack of it ever cause serious issues!!! And excellent (yet challenging) task! You sound like such a lovely person. I really hope everything works out for you. We're rooting for you!!! :D

Jane, I love how you think. It's the basis of Poly.. you can't be everything to someone. I think that's the challenge. Figure out what it is you offer that's special to the relationship. I'm in a bit of a conundrum with that in my relationship right now. Rules of engagement have...

I agree. Keep your name. It's who you are. Besides, cowgirls roamed the range long before poly coined the term as something negative. Forum Friends, what do we call the male equivalent of Poly "Cowgirls"?

CdM, fair enough. :D Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Being in a similar life circumstance, you know that I appreciate your input. :D I guess, where my thoughts are also stemming from, is that is there a minimum or maximum requirement? As you said in other posts, you are polysaturated with...

Can I just ask a question that's been nagging at me from Day 1 on this whole Poly thing? No disrespect intended, just pure curiousity from the gallery of Mono minions. :D I hear and read so often about Poly partners wanting to pursue a poly lifestyle and then dealing with the repercussions...

YouAreHere, thanks for sharing. We have those same talks. The honesty and openness is quite sweet, isn't it? Lucky you, sharing half time! Physically, I'd love the challenge. ;) Sorry for the hijack, Nathan.

Hey D, maybe she should enjoy a Pina Colada or two to relax during date night??? Perhaps with a friend? Guy, Girl, whatever her preference... Mmmm Pina Coladas. :D:D:D:D

It's different for everyone. I didn't meet my boyfriend's OSO until we had been together for 6 months. After 6 months, we were already starting to fall in love with each other, already very intimate with each other. I actually felt hurt that I hadn't met her sooner. His past lovers had all...

I don't know much about BDSM but this is very disturbing to me. I agree with DH, get out and get your kids out of this bullshit now before any permanent damage, particularly to your children. She is obviously not thinking with a rational mind. After that, if she wants you all in her life...

Hmm. I don't know about that one. It appears that you are talking more about opening your relationship and including his brother moreso than the fact that you are romantically involved with the brother and now want to include him in your original relationship. That's not exactly poly. And...

I'm so interested in this thread. :) After an extended period of abstinence in their relationship, my bf and live-in OSO have recently regained the sexual part of their relationship. It was a struggle for me at first, to be honest, as I entered into this with him as my being his only sexual...

Savygirl, your story and circumstances sound eerily similar to another member on here that had written several months ago. Her nickname was samines. Are you the same person under a new name? Just curious because the situations are quite parallel.

I entered his life in a serious time of need. I recognized pain and lonliness that he was feeling. He was a good man. And I wanted to be close to him, offer comfort. And as it turned out, we fell deeply in love with each other. Self Respect? I have more of it than you could dream of having...

How did he "come around" to being poly? I was reading your initial threads and they stated he was clearly very Mono. Perhaps the drinking was his way of coping with a very uncomfortable situation. And the amount of texting is him getting caught up in some extra attention. Either way, I...

Here's an issue that you might not have considered. Your deliberate, desperate actions may force him to make decisions that he's uncomfortable with, like cancelling dates with his girlfriend, lying, ommission of details, all in the effort to spare your feelings and to spare himself the drama...