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You hate what? To agree with me? ;). Kidding :D

It sounds a little like you are focusing on every reason for Colin NOT to have the long lasting partnership that he craves. Fact is, if he wants it bad enough, the other stuff won't matter. He will find a way to make it all work. I understand you love him and want him to build something long...

Wow. Aren't you just a treasure? :confused: Please explain WHY you are in a poly relationship when clearly you are too insecure to handle this new love in a mature way? You're right. She does offer him more ; less selfishness and more sincerity for starters. You should find a forum for...

It could be a mix of both. No problem. :D It's funny, we sound so alike, similar circumstances, similar history, similar reactions. Parallel stories. :D

Good point WH. I'd love to hear feedback on that, too. I'm sure there are different variations of answers. There will be some that don't discuss, they keep their relationships entirely separate from each other. And others who love to tell all...and many variations in between. It's a matter...

You are not a plaything. I had a tough time quantifying my risk versus his, too. But in the end, feelings are still feelings. And loss still hurts, despite the label on the relationship.

I felt similar as you do. I really looked forward to our time together. I loved getting texts/messages from him every day. I wanted to look nice for him. I was super attracted to him. Otherwise I lived my life, friends, family, career, looked forward to our date every 2 weeks but that was...

I held myself back for about a year. Knowing the constraints of our relationship, I didn't want to put myself out there too much. I didn't want to set any expectations. Same story, bad marriage, series of bad boyfriends post divorce, hurt, used and abused in so many ways. I was cautious...

AC, I'm going to post as I too, like WhatHappened, am in a similar situation as C and can also speak for what my poly bf feels. This seems reversed. For many of the other 'secondary' relationships spoken candidly about on here, the primary already accepts that a part-time deal is less than...

Speaking from experience in his shoes, I'm sure he's probably the one feeling disposable. God knows I've felt it many times. You are the one committed to another. You are the one who can't offer him more than a secondary deal. You have someone to cuddle into every night, he doesn't. You...

My bf's live-in SO and I are quite different. We do share many similar traits - big hearts, educated, intelligent strong minds, physically fit and attractive. Yet we are so different from each other. She is a tall, thin, blond; more subdued personality. I am shorter, not as thin but...

We need a "like" button on here.:D. Cindie, I doubt it's badly worded, it's simply in bad taste and shows how little respect she/they have for his "secondaries". Facebook is the least of their worries.

I agree that people should state their needs, but documentation? Is that really necessary? I dont think there's much honor in having people agree to sign documentation for a personal relationship. If the couple doesn't wish to have their lives exposed, and the other partner refuses to...

That's a hard one. My time is very limited. I am a single mother of 2 little ones, my career is very demanding. I don't have much free time to date or invest into building a relationship at the pace that most others would require me to. I'm a monogamous person at heart and I'm in love with...

Sounds like the Nondisclosure Agreement in 50 Shades of Grey. Are you serious????? A Demand Document with compliance?? :confused: Yeah, good luck with that!

Love this! Thank you for saying that. I agree 100%.

Be mindful of time disparity, too. I only see my bf once or twice a week. He lives with his SO and obviously sees her much more than me. As our time together is so limited, yes, I would appreciate having his undivided attention during those few hours that we are together, no texting etc unless...

It's breaking my heart just reading that. I've been there, still am there to an extent. And it really does suck. I recently attended a work function for my bf. I was awkward, didn't enjoy myself at all, hung out with my kids and his mother, introduced as a family friend, when we all knew...

Not all Veto's are equal. I believe there is a form of passive-aggressive vetoing that occurs too. One might never outright say the words, but they sure can make their partner's life hell for not dumping the other person. Depression, anger, saddness, withdrawl, might cause one to "make the...

So he doesn't want to hurt his SO. And he did act out of free will to end it with this new girl. Yes. But it doesn't mean that he didn't want to date her, end of story. That's rather dismissive. When you read the entire thread, you will probably see it differently. He wanted to date...