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I agree with you. If something were to change in my partner's life, I would want to be aware. I wouldn't want to violate anyone's privacy with details but I would want the option of determining if it's something I can live with. To some, sex is sex. To me it is private and intimate. To my...

That's funny... Given my current situation, I would hardly call myself "Normal". :D And based on my own "normal" experiences over many years, I just know there are choices I'd probably make differently if given the chance. Anyways, I never meant that you had to date a single person your own...

I'm with you there. I agree that it's a great actualization that there is more than one way to experience relationships. I guess, where I sit, as the mother of a pre-teen girl, if my 14-16 year old daughter started having fantasies about a relationship with 30-something godparents, I'd have a...

Yes, I got that when I went back and reread the post. I missed two words "New Couple" at the end of a rambling paragraph. Thanks. :D I still don't agree that someone who is 18 needs to be involved in the potential drama of 30-something's that teach at the school she attends. Nobody wins...

Ummmm, just my two cents. All other issues aside...the fact that it is against most (if not all) school policies for a faculty member to be 'amorous' with students, this girl is only 18 and these supposed potential 'partners' of hers are her GODPARENTS?!?!? Again, all other issues aside...

I had one of my favourite, calming mantras tattooed on my rib cage, on my left side, close to my heart. Surprisingly, this didn't hurt as much as I thought it might; just a couple of brief moments of hold-your-breath discomfort. :) "This too shall pass." Like NYCindie pointed out to me...

Nycindie, what great advice! Not a lame example at all! I've often wondered how to strike up conversation in the famous Produce Aisle of the grocery store! I can be rather introverted socially, unless it's a business function where I'm in my element and I let my Type A business executive...

First off, Welcome! I just wanted to say THANK YOU for reinforcing something my bf (who is poly) has been saying to me all along, his fear of me moving on and leaving him behind. Usually I believe him, but sometimes it's hard to believe that he would be that devestated considering he has a SO...

Are you sure you aren't my BF??!! LOL!!! This sounds almost exactly what he has said to me in the past in response to my concern about being disposable and with regards to doing what's best for me, in my best interest. :D You know, my bf has said that for being involved with 2 women, he is...

You give me too much credit. I made it sound easy, which it surely isn't. Truely the success of such relationships is strictly based on all partners willingness to at least TRY to make this work. ALL parties involved must support the arrangement. My comments spoke to what I ideally try to...

Sorry! My mistake! I thought whenyou said that "we implemented a schedule" this meant that when he wasn't at home 2 nights a week and alternate weekends, that he was with you. I agree that nobody can spend 100% of their time with another person. Between work and hobbies and other...

Just a thought.... I know there are many more Mono Secondaries on this forum..... I'm surprised there are not more comments. :confused:

Just my thoughts. From my perspective as a Mono-Sec, I don't think the issue is that we doubt that we are loved less. I don't feel that at all. I'm loved differently, which is normal. You never love anyone the same way as you love another, regardless of the nature of the relationship...

Hi BR, I have to ask, how do you feel about the breakup? Understanding how you feel about it will determine how you help and react. Of course you are hurting for him and his loss - you love him and want him to be happy. But is there a part of you that's relieved or excited about a prospect...

Hey D! Oh yes, I'm still around! :) My situation has improved and stabilized. It is great. :D Thank you! Honestly, the more time I can get, the better. However, I am at peace with having a couple of date nights and sleepovers a week. I have such a full schedule with my work, my kids...

Seniority should not apply to any human relationship I have read this post over and over again and can't decide how, or if, I should comment. (My bf and his SO read these threads and I've gotten in a little hot water over some of my posts. :( ) But here I go......... I'm a Mono Secondary...

haha! So very true! One thing that never changes is the fact that everything will change... Now there's a riddle! :D

I love it! I, too, have to remind myself to refrain from overthinking. Great idea to post a reminder to yourself! I have "This too shall pass" posted at my desk (and tattooed on my ribcage!) to remind me that nothing is permanent, especially the negative emotions, stress, sadness, frustration...

PaperGrace, I've alwways find your thoughts to be useful. :). Precious1, I have been thinking about this a lot this week. And I really took a step back to evaluate what I do to pass that time in between. Everything I said before is still valid. I spend time with my children, my friends and...