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Thanks ever so much! Last night was a bit better. B has said on his own that he will go to therapy. I'm pleased. Let's see if he can do it.

Thanks, Indie. Sadly, my excitement was short-lived. B cannot handle this lifestyle, not really. He needs to be a cheater. He was planning next weekend away with J4 (her name has 4 letters) and he can't go because we have prior plans. He lost it. He's insane, truly. He just can't figure this...

I gotta tell you I had no idea how excited for him I would be. No clue. I really thought I'd be jealous, and I still might be later on, but only because he gets way more time with his GF than I get with my BF, and his comfort level is not nearly as high as mine. This relationship and the whole...

Ah, how things change yet more and more. Friday night B went to be with his J. When he walked in at 4:30 in the morning he was all aglow, and I knew, and I was so happy for him. I pointed out that he should have just stayed the night with her, but he had not cleared it with me so he felt bad...

I was wondering where you were and how things were. Good to see you.

...and I'm so excited for him! He met a woman. She explained to him why this life works. He's starting to get it. B never ever thought he'd want to be poly. But she is poly. Her husband's GF is a former schoolmate of my husband's. I haven't met any of them yet, but she sounds wonderful...

How surreal is it that I'm upset about something J did (not) do, and B picks up on it, and asks, and he feels bad for me that J hurt me? Wow.

Ha. Thanks, NYCindie! I'm getting very excited to go see J next weekend. It's our first time together for more than one night. We had a small family crisis yesterday and while B's J was there for him emotionally, my J is nowhere to be found. That's hard for me. I have jealousy that even...

OMG. How odd to find this. Hubby goes au naturel. But J shaves from just below his nipple line to just past his groin, totally. I'm not crazy about it. I would prefer trimmed to shaved, but it's his choice. His take on it is that he's very hairy and feels his partner should not have to deal with...

Well, well, well, things have changed for us in the last week or so. B has met a woman on OKCUPID who is local, married and very poly. He likes her. He likes her husband. He knows her husband's GF from high school. His new friend is willing to wait him out and see what develops, as B is not...

Well, it's been a long time since I've been here, and sadly I'm ranting about the same old stuff. We have not moved forward much in terms of how B is dealing. J and I have moved forward in our relationship. Sadly, I fear that my marriage may not survive, that does not bother me as much as it...

Well it's been quiet for us. B and I are both battling some weird virus that started with multiple cold sores. I even had a fever of 102 on Saturday. Then we moved to a cold. NOT FUN! B has been so kind and cuddly and worried about me. Apparently in the 8 yrs we've been together. I've never...

I've got no advice. but I have a lot of hugs and sympathy.

I understand where you are. I love Bill with my heart and soul, but thankfully for us I could never lie to him. We were swingers before Josh came into our lives. I was open and honest with Bill from day one about "wanting to do Josh." Bill always said go for it. It was almost a joke, but then it...

well actually it's mine too...

funny that's not the case with me currently. While my husband is my physical type, my BF is NOT.... I don't really care for his looks at all.... and while my husband at 290 pounds has perfect health numbers my very slender BF does not... go figure.

Interesting convo with B this afternoon. He really is trying to process this, and it takes a lot of screaming, yelling, threatening, and roundabout things to get to the truth of the matter. So, where we stand right now: 1. He does not want to give up "the lifestyle." 2. He likes when we do...

i was SMO last year. so was my DH... I had gastric bypass and now I'm still considered overweight but I'm not skinny. I have a lot of padding around my hips and belly due to excess skin. I like a man or a woman with some padding. I don't like skinny. I don't like bony and yet here I am with...

HA! The three of us talk together about this. Not going to happen. And I know that's not right. I know it's best if the three of us can sit and talk and not have me be the middle man, back and forth. I think J could deal with it now, although the first night when we had a chance, he wanted to...

Thanks, everyone. I appreciate it. I've had years of therapy and I know what's going on with me. B has always had this reaction to things. Nothing new about how he's reacting, just what he's reacting to. It looks as if we won't be doing polyamory, ever. He can't deal. It also looks as if we...