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Thanks for the vote of confidence, Dag. I think we'll start with that. They are 7 and 5.

Love this, Dag! I am working on trying to explain more to my 7 year old who asks more about why I'm with Nudge so much, why we are affectionate? etc., and I'm contemplating just saying "Yes, Nudge is Mommy's boyfriend," but I was worried about other kids giving him heck. Maybe I should just do...

So I haven't been on in a while, things a pretty good in poly land. My spouse has some women interested in him, and the boyfriend and I have been together about a year. My current trouble, is trying to deal with my own unexpected jealous. It took me a while to come to terms with the boyfriend...

yes I have one :)

My spouse and I don't really give each other veto power. There is one ex-boyfriend of mine that we refer to as "blacklisted," because J doesn't like the history there, and that's fine. But aside from that, you date who you want to date. Now, as far as being uncomfortable with the person, I've...

not seeking validation, i get paid to right these. :p

Well Nudge and I love to spend time together, and we often want more but when we know it just isnt possible we remind ourselves of the fact that the wanting and waiting is nice too. Not getting as much as you'd like, keeps it a little new and interesting I think. Its nice to know Nudge wants...

http://www.mommyish.com/2013/10/14/polyamorous-mom-couldnt-go-boyfriends-mothers-funeral/ so im really getting slammed on this one. Im curious at other poly peoples reactions...by boyfriend read it and thought it was good, so no hard feelings there. please feel free to read and comment here...

youre message to her is great. My BF and I have the same age difference as you two :) (that doesnt matter, but was just neat). I think youre spot on about why she got jealous...when Nudge discussed dating i got pretty jealous (he also has a wife) for just that reason, when it doesnt bother me...

my spouse goes through this, i have a long term boyfriend and our friends have other partners, but he has yet to make a connection. Its frustrating, but he just tries to even just make new friends and still get out there and do stuff. things take time :)

I think a person can do both. My boyfriend and I have both done "work" on our marriages while still being together. Maybe here or there we would forgo a night together to focus on a spouse, but I dont think either of us would neglect our own relationship enitrely. If i were to totally remove...

Just gotta pop in here to say, it sounds to be like you want two differnet things. it sounds like, he wants poly (yes?) but what you describe (casual sex, no emotions) is swinging, NOT poly. poly is about building multiple sustainable relationships, swinging is having casual sex. (i dont know...

Agreed. it doesnt sound like she wants commitment in general....also, OP you probably shouldnt be worrying about what did or didnt happen with her, you decided poly isnt for you, she isnt a commitment girl poly or no..soo..move on and try to feel good about yourself. But just as a shot in the...

It gets easier. I know this was a few days ago. I hope you made it through the night well and your wife had a nice date. My spouse and I have only been doing this six months. Saturday I had an overnight with my BF. Tomorrow my spouse has a date. We are at a place where we are happy for each...

Like others have said....not really sure what you want advice on? Do you want to stay married to your husband? do you want multiple partners, or just not your husband? Why are you worried about him having sex with an ex if you want to be poly? Not sure what guidance to offer :)

Agree. check out a thread i posted on committment and secondaries where I ask everyone about my boyfriend dating, there are good responses. One thing Nudge and I have done is try to do more social things together, and that makes me feel mroe relaxed about his meeting other people.

I gotta agree too, not only because Nudge and I are in a relationship, but i find with anyone at all its better to just say it and get it out there. as we are all always saying on this board, talk talk talk

My boyfriend is enjoying "Opening Up" thats something you could read together. You seem like you are really doing some thinking and talking and thats great. Ypour coworker story amused me, cause thats how Nudge and I started (still work togehter). lol

Oh. well good point. i guess I was thinknig of marriage as the start of living together, sharing more etc. but I could be way off base

This sounds really smart and put together, hang in there. I dont think I could have stayed with my spouse if he hadnt been fully supportive of me. We did work through our issues, but its because he was dedicated to both me and the kids. Take care of yourself ::hugs::