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I heard "I can't do that" all the time. It doesn't bother me, nor make me feel distanced. They just couldn't do it. There was a time when I wouldn't have thought I could either. When I said I was bi a very good female friend said "Ewwww. Vagina is gross!" This and the look on her face made me...

He probably really doesn't have a clue! But if he thinks you look good no matter what, good. My husband swings from not caring at all and saying I look good in anything to raiding the closet to pick the "perfect" outfit for me-usually something I think I look hideous in. Nudity is looking...

I'm glad you had a good time and you're feeling better about all of this. But...did I miss something? Are you saying that you're now thinking more along the line of "swinger" relationship rather than "poly"? I make no judgment, just wish to clarify.

What she said.

My husband and I often communicate better through text messages throughout the day, if one of us is having a problem, than in person. He is very logical. I am very emotional. Sometimes the written word, with space between us, and time to think through responses evens the playing field. When we...

Welcome to the forums. I think River summed up some of the advantages very nicely. One other I can name (from your wife's perspective) is that she would be able to have a loving and physical relationship with both a man and a woman, which is wonderful for a bisexual person. (I assume she is?)...

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Hi JD! Welcome.

I figured this belonged in chit chat? So I live in NYC and N keeps saying we should go to the upcoming Poly pride weekend. But I'm going to be 8 months pregnant! I don't mind the being poly and having kids thing, but being poly while carrying a baby and not currently in a poly relationship? He...

AH HA! I had one of those moments. Much of my lack of understanding your posts and your plight came from the simple fact we define "single" differently. Where, for me, it is complete unattachment-for you it is not having a primary relationship but possibly having other attachments. Thank you for...

Wow. Good for you. Hubby does seem sorry, with all the attention and gestures. But yes, he does need to talk, if that is what you need for this to be worked out. I find some people are better able to do than to talk, but if talking is needed, talking it must be. It's so weird, the way he can't...

I'm sorry this is going so rough. It took a lot of courage to step forward and be yourself to those you love. Being met with rejection must be so painful. They're probably concerned as parents, in-laws, and grandparents more than anything. And their reactions are probably more immediately...

Before responding I want to clarify MY personal definitions. Single-a person who is completely unattached to anyone, having no loving relationship, on their own. Polyamory-a love style in which a person has a mutual loving and committed relationship to more than one person which can and usually...

Hmmm... now I'm wondering about this new situation with the gf. Why must life be so complicated? If you are up to it, share here and I'm sure you will be offered advice and support.

Glad to see things are looking up. It is probably best to keep the poly talk on hold until she works through other issues she apparently has. To begin the conversations now may only scare her or anger her back into her jealous, insecure ways. You know her best and you can judge when and if she...

I think what *usually* happens is that a monogamous couple (or even a couple with no agreement of monogamy) forms first and then opens up, either by agreement or by one or both meeting someone else they're interested in. And poly *usually* comes from that. It doesn't mean the couple have to be...

Welcome. I had relationships where the guys were all traditional as well, til my hubby. Try a Virgo? ;)

You changed the title! 15 minutes of fame done now?

Except for the insects, we could open a business. Happily, I've been rescued. Well, hubby has helped me rescue myself.

Without his side and hearing only what you have to say, I'd feel as if he were in it for the sex, as well. Hanging out, whether as couples or in a triad, should be about more than just having an available space to have sex. Right now, it seems as though that's what he's most focused on. If the...