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Thanks YouAreHere but it's not there. That's ok. I'm going to restart my blog and tell my story from beginning to end. People need to read about how a Primary Jealous Insecure S/O can be so manipulative and deceptive, posing as a Saint, one who puts an expiry date on Secondary relationships...

Excellent advice, Elemental. I was vetoed, as you know. Then his primary told him that he could continue to see me, if he agreed to reopening our closed V to other women with her. She needs him to seek out (bait) other women for her, so that she feels desired as much as I did by him. I love how...

Hi, Elemental. I'm captivated by your story. I've been on the secondary side of a similar relationship disintegration for 4 years. Yes, 4 years-- 2 years of heaven, 2 more of pure hell. :( I connect with your struggles as noted above in vetoing another person. I connect with your struggles...

Hi there. Thanks. But he put a gag order on me and forced me to delete it to spare her (and ultimately him) more misery. I've regretted that since I did it. Why should I care that they hurt or "look bad". It was my story to write and if they wanted a different story , they should have acted...

Op, I've been 'victim' to the jealous primary as well. And it isn't fun. For two years, she made my life and my boyfriend's life pure hell. I'm going to share my story. It's the worst case scenario but it's very realistic. She is weak in mind , body , integrity , self esteem and used...

This. Yes yes yes. Exactly this. Please spare yourself further drama and pain and move on.

I've been silent here for a very long time but I couldn't stay quiet reading your story. It sounds eerily similar to my own. I hear every word you are saying and empathize to the point of tears as to why you want this to continue. But let me tell you that I have been in your shoes for...

I haven't posted on here in a very long time , for many different reasons, but I've been following this and I have to say as a "Secondary" who's been Veto'd by a very selfish, insecure "Primary" that as FRIEND, as A LOVER, as a PARTNER, as a HUMAN.. the way you both have treated Si is...

It might be a red flag for me, depending on the illness. Someone very close to me is involved with a man who is bi polar. His MEDS have a very adverse effect on him sometimes and he tires of the side effects so he's been known to 'go off' his MEDS. There have been times when that happens...

I agree. I think every relationship will have it's own dynamics based on the characters involved. Not every relationship will encounter the same challenges that you might feel compelled to share. Serious issue -yes, but TB is right, give them the chance to do it first. Otherwise your just...

Being Secondary can be difficult at the best of times. There are periods of loneliness, doubt, insecurities, need for reassurance. So, if you are already struggling with what it would mean to be Secondary, then I would strongly advise focusing your efforts and time on developing yourself and...

There seems to be alot of wishy washy, discontented moods today. Myself included. Exhausted from the many challenges of these past few months. So many double standards, frustrations, conversations, affirmations, tears and laughter, disappointments and joys. The highs and the lows. The...

Hell no. :D I'm not fat but I'm not thin either. Toxemia with Twins attacked my body and has made it less than perfect. But the amazing way that my boyfriend responds to my curves, there is no doubt how sexy he thinks I am, absolute perfection as he says. :D

I believe this thread conjured up alot of negative emotions from many sides of the relationship equation. Secondaries, Primaries, etc, we all felt it. The hatred and disrespect is mindblowing and depressing. And Scary. There are so many of us that want so bad for these type of...

Mindblowing

:D :D :D We knew what you were saying... just semantics. :D Good answer. Equal Respect for everyone. Nice! Question period closed. :D Back to the thread. In the age of Smartphones, it seems that it's the preferred method of communication these days. I recently met a new friend and...

Hey Daffodil. Are you now suffering from a case of Truth Hurts? :p

Hi Tonberry, I understand that too however, just as a point of clarification, I too was confused by CdM's comments. He never stated past partners so when you read this, it sounds like it's in the present. (I bolded where applicable) Hence the confusion. I'm just sayin'. :D

Great thoughts CDM! I'd rather have my one date night exclusive to me, but if that's not possible, that's ok, as long as it works both ways. :D

Thank you Kevin! No offense taken. :D Everyone knows that your heart is in the right place. I just wanted to urge caution in endorsing this troubled woman's poor decisions and behaviour. Take care. -NT