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Not to be a typical dude about it, but what's wrong with those? (#1 and #3) Yeah I'll agree they aren't terribly creative but I don't see anything overtly wrong with them. #2 is a little too forward, with you on that one, totes.

Bite the shield rim and continue forward. Best any of us can do.

Its often worn to show support for the Palestinian cause.

And I'm glad that works well for you and makes you happy. In my experience, this kind of "unconscious racism" is the social and emotional equivalent of self-flagellation; you're trying to force something out of you that you cant see, that you give no voice to, that really doesnt effect what you...

I've worn a keffiyeh (or shemagh as they may be better known) for keffiyeh for several years. I'm very in favor of the symbolism behind it and its also a very nice piece of clothing regardless of what you're doing. I've seen keffiyehs catch on with hipster kids (though the trend seems to have...

People are speaking from their personal experiences with what they see. I dont think anyone here is extending what they see across the entire community and saying that because THEY only see white people, then only white people must be poly. Again I dont understand what an XYZ event is. Are you...

-Not often. -I have to echo Alleycat and ask what exactly a "Black event" is. -I have two or three, I wouldn't call them close friends though. -Again, not entirely sure what constitutes a "Black club" but no. I actually dont go to ANY clubs. -I have in the past. I don't think anyone here is...

That's probably not going to make HIS primary terribly happy. Part of being polyamorous is considering the feelings, wants, and needs of the other people involved in the relationship. I'm sure you do want a lot of time with him but he is already in a relationship and the other participant(s) may...

Talking to your partner is a big step that is likely to rattle your relationship. I'd be dead sure this is something you want to explore before dropping that particular bomb. Short answer, there is virtually nothing you can say that is NOT going to have that effect. Long answer, I dont know...

Awesome. Welcome to the club, coffee and doughnuts on Thursdays, Fridays are karaoke, and t-shirts are available out in the lobby. Seriously though, its great that you're taking a step you feel will be meaningful to you. I do have to be Captain Buzzkill and ask a couple of questions, feel...

Ask yourself "Do I want a POLY life or a life with these two specifically?" If you just want a relationship with these two specific women and cant really see yourself being interested in other people, "suppression" (gods I hate that term) is more viable. Given enough time, feelings can cool...

I would put sexuality and race as closer points of comparison though I do feel hair color is still within the ballpark. Different races have different physical characteristics and refusing to date someone because they "look too Asian" is basically the same net effect as refusing to date someone...

I think we need to stick to the dictionary definition of racism and its especially important that we do that because this is such a loaded term. Racism is defined, basically, as "hatred or intolerance of another race or other races." That's a very active and aware statement. I've always...

The only thing I can really do is disagree and repeat myself, I feel like we're not going to agree on this point. I'm sorry I just don't buy the unconscious racism. I'm fully prepared to accept that some people have cultural biases towards "their own" and that plays out as unconscious bias or...

It sounds like you let your frustration get to you. Nothing to be ashamed about, we all have moments where the load we're carrying just gets too heavy and we have to throw it at someone. Unfortunately, that often means the people close to us. Best thing to do would be to sit down with them...

This. Essentially. The vast majority of us have many decades of social programming that basically treats monogamy as the only acceptable mode of a relationship. By being poly, we're going against that and that causes a lot of stress because we're social animals and we've genetically been...

The basic question is is it prejudiced to refuse to date a specific group of people based on something about that group of people, real or imagined? Couch it in race, hair color, eye color, sexuality, gender, or whatever provided you dont have an issue with that group in daily life; you dont...

Red Flag #1 A decrease in sex is usually a sign of bigger problems. Red Flag #2 The flags sort of form a big canopy at this point. You basically already said the problem; you and your husband are great friends. I have a lot of great friends that I love enough to be willing to die for but...

I think we're all in that boat. XD We kinda have to do our own community studies, because no one else is doing them. I have to concur with Hades. When does preference turn into prejudice? Would your opinion of me change if I said I would never date blondes because I found the hair color...

Polymatchmaker is a neat idea but they seem kinda...empty. I could only find like five people in the LA area and that was with VERY generous search terms.