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Sounded like dictating to me. Perhaps I'm mistaken. Either way, they don't "definitely need to stop being used". They are perfectly acceptable for some people. That's fine. They are unacceptable to others. Also fine. I take issue with the gross generalization of them being awful and everyone...

They're not awful terms. People make them awful with their own preferences/baggage/stupid choices. Call yourself what you want; don't try to dictate what others call themselves.

What they said. I may not have been so eloquent.

The mods can change names, but there may be criteria I'm unaware of to have them do so. Or, they may give you a Stern Talking To, because if they had to change everyone's names, that would be a lot of work. Or they might just do it. Someone with real authority will be along shortly.

Ditto. And my heart goes out to Butch, who seems to have had very little control over this.

Message Received: Your GF is acting like a twat. Result: DTMFA

You've told us before how much your alone time with Tom bothered Sarah. It sounds like she's taking the time she needs now, maybe catching up on what she missed over the last little while. Yes, she was jealous and insecure, but as I recall, you spent nearly all of your free time with Tom. That...

You made my morning.

*hugs*

*snork*

There are lots of people here who are very helpful, but you're going to have to give us more details about the actual problem, other than "it's not going smoothly." :)

I'd vote for calling her too. But I'm a bitch when I'm at the end of my rope. :)

Oh, it's so good to hear you're doing well! *HUGS*

Magdlyn should find you soon. She's a wealth of knowledge and compassion for the trans folk that come here, and their partners. Not that the rest of us aren't a compassionate lot, but actual experience makes advice so much more relevant. ;)

Well, that's just a bouquet of facepalms, isn't it? Just tried to grab your "honest relationship" quote and see that MZ has made my point. TB, it's starting to look like you deserve each other. We can't teach you how to not be a doormat, or how to be honest. You just have to DO IT.

Really? Have you forgotten about the surprise threesome, his blatant use and mistreatment of other women and telling you what "good potential" you have?? Based on what you've said before, and the crux of your issue now, I wouldn't wave the honesty flag around. But yes, he has been consistent...

My thoughts are with you, lady. You can do this.

Did you post in rapid succession? It may have triggered the spam catcher. I'm not a mod, but I'm sure one will be along to answer shortly. They're very good about that. :) For the record, swearing is fine, so long as it's not directed at others. We're all adults. Fuckity fuck fuck fuck!

Damn, someone beat me to the Borg reference ... fine. I'll go with Life of Brian. Crowd, in unison: We are all individuals ... Brian: Fuck off. Crowd: How shall we fuck off, O Lord?

Yeah, luckily I travel light. Book and iPad and I'm good. Plus the rooms are ten feet from each other if I need anything else. *HUG*