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Mono, have you ever taken the "Please understand me" test? I'm curious to know what you are. I'll get LR to find the book and I'll give you some more direct info. I'm an ISTJ and I'm very prone to the "what if's" something that I AM but that I don't have to let control my life. Glad to see you...

If you want, you can read up on LR and me. LR has a bf, GG. He lives with us. We have not been friends for long. I've only really started trying to get to know him in the last month, although he has lived with us for years now. Friendship for the long haul is necessary. Metamours loving each...

Just a quick note : I have read in a few places in this thread : Promises, Ultimatum,"cant promise I wont". Its not really fair to give those terms and on the other side its not right to ask for those terms.Its to easy to get feelings hurt or to get stuck in a demanding rut.Just a warning to...

I have to second this. No matter what else happens in my life as it is now, I will never stop growing and spreading out, all because of honesty, communication and being open to love in all the different ways it can be shared and felt. I was such an introvert, couldn't stand crowds, and wasn't...

There are many advantages to writing out your frustrations and fears.1) The reader can imagine the tone at which the words are said(removing the condensending or angry ones) 2) the reader can reread the words as many times as needed in order to understand them fully.3) the reader can stop and...

I have to second V's post. At the very least keep it as a friendship till Mountainboy and M have built some sort of friendship or till one or the other calls it quits.Of course Mountainboy and M would have to put forth an honest effort to making a friendship. Lady should not ( cant) be expected...

I hate when you make so much sense:) Looking from outside the box.Self esteem seems to be the biggest issue.If you feel like your worthy, happy, healthy,attractive,smart and generally someone that others WANT to be around then you can see the glass as half full. Ither way you have half a glass...

Well I guess I can answer this:) You are close RP. I was 10 when my life crashed around me.With out going into a lot of detail my mother F'd my father over and I was first hand witness to it. 14 years latter she F'd me over also. I dont have a lot of trust for women. ( thats not the only one...

The biggest thing I see in any poly style is that all need to love each other to some degree.Maybe not sex and im may case deffinatly not sex with LR's BF.And with patience and open mindedness a friendship can come from the oddest of places. wait and see what happens I suppose.

I do understand what it is your saying Lover. Im working on building that trust that you have with C. Its not going to be fast or easy.Hell its not been easy with you after June 3rd.I still have moments of not feeling as though you dont love me as much anymore( IE lastnight)I know its my inner...

We are your guardians and your confidants you can tell us anything and we will not bail on you lover. Im so glad you were able to talk to us both you did an awesome job and it showed me that your not superwoman your our woman;)

PS I think the song is by Avril lavigne????

Hey !!! Im still a tough guy:) It was really amazing to lay on the living room floor(naked) with you and connect so deeply without haveing to take it to sex. You know why I call you lover?? Because no matter what we are doing there is love with you.< Hugs and Kisses Lover>

OK, HOLD THE BUS! First, RP, you know better then to think you're not wanted here. This is a public forum, and as such, when anyone writes here they should expect (hope for) an array of differing opinions. It makes no sense to hear the same advice over and over. No one can be expected to give...

What a rough night. I cant say it's the first snag I have hit but I will say it's the hardest one. I have been in communication with a lady that is open to poly lifestyles. She is a friend of the family and has shown an interest in BEING with one or both of us. She is married to a nice guy who...

OK... Here is my take. Mind you this is just my opinion( having been on the recieving end of lies and cheating) and IMO there is physical lies and cheating and emotional lies and cheating. Your looking at this as a well I can be miserable and keep my mouth shut, or I can risk it all and...

If I had to pick one thing that I have learned from this board and the ppl who are on it, it would be that everything relationship is different and everyone is different. The key is to be true to yourself and open and honest. This is why I think Mono and RP will make forever a reality. I don't...

I feel your pain more then you can imagine V. I have to agree to try your best to be true to yourself. I know its hard when You love someone to truly make sure that you are still being healthy to yourself. Just remember that if you cant be whole and happy then the loved ones around you will...

Im glad you found time to add your thoughts here C. The gecko's was a very cool profile pic and the story behind it was perfect for explaining the situation as it is now. I really didnt like the link of the the 3 of us then but now it has such an obvious showing of commitment and love. I know...

Wow I read and then reread this post RP..I sighed 4-5 times and then read it once more. Im at a loss for what to write or think.I have learned to not open my mouth(or type) till I have fully considered and processed all the info available to me.So I will respectivly postpone a response for...