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Since there are actually people reading this, I'll report that I *finally* got to have a talk with Easy, late last night. (Worked really really late, causing me to grumble about inconsiderate bosses who want to destroy marriages) I think we set down some solid ideas for solving this issue and...

Sunday is a complicated situation for me. I guess the bottom line is that I'm trying to be friends with him and not let my feelings for him get in the way. He's still married to Asha, and he's there whenever we're at their house. He treats me kindly but impersonally. I hug him and kiss him...

I do need a big hug, and I need to know that the hurting is going to stop. I can't even talk this over with Easy because he's working *all the time*. I don't feel like Easy did anything wrong, but I do feel *so rejected*. I hate this.

I'm hurting and I can't seem to work through it. Easy and I are going around and around and I can't seem to communicate what I need him to hear. I know that our history together is hurting us here, but I can't let go of the feelings and I don't know what to do. I wrote him a letter but it...

Oh, I so empathize with Indigo. I look at Easy with Asha, and how happy he is when he's with her, how carefree he looks and relaxed, and I think, "Wow, I can't give him that. We have children, we have bills, I have to take care of real life, and I don't make him smile like that. What am I...

Yeah, I get how that can happen. It can sometimes be hard to verbalize our needs, and I know that I sometimes can't even figure out how to articulate what I'm feeling. Try an activity, like hiking, that you both agree on, and that you can't be distracted from by a laptop, and I'm with you, I...

AP, you guys need that quality time. But I don't know how you're going about it, so I'll throw this out there and you can take what you like. Schedule time to do something that the both of you like to do, no pressure, just something fun. You don't have to concentrate on bonding to actually...

That's hilarious, marksbabygirl! On the completely opposite side of you, I marvel every day at how Easy was NOTHING like anyone I'd ever dated and not even close to my "type". But he's got lots of qualities that I never knew I needed! This thread haunted me last night, as it seemed to paint a...

I don't think you could even come close to saying it was an easy process for us. We were a monogamous couple for 18 years, aware of poly but not interested. We decided to give poly a try...well, it's complicated. Emotions were right, people were right. But at no point in the process has it...

I guess I'm a bad example, or my monogamous wiring is showing. For me, "I love you" *does* say that I prefer you above others, and also that I want to spend my life with you. I *rarely* say I love you to non-romantic partners--my children, OF COURSE, but (don't judge) my parents raised me to...

I love this thread and think it's worth bumping. Also, early on in this thread I had mentioned that I was in a quad situation and three of our children were attending school together, and someone asked me to keep them updated. Well, a year later (I'm sorry!)... The school year went fine. The...

I want to point out, legal marriage is kind of redundant. I mean, IF you are committed to each other, then you make that commitment in your minds and your hearts. When you have a ceremony, it is a ritual to show the world the commitment that you have already made to each other (and an excuse...

Lou, I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this painful experience. I hope someone with more varied experience will speak up. I think that if you don't want to break up, then that's your answer--you need to work at it, and sometimes it's going to be painful and hard and really there's...

And my all-time favorite poly memory... I was filling out the paperwork for Monkey to start school and she looked over as I was putting in the guardian information. Monkey: Why are there so many spots for parents? Me: In case you have step-parents. Monkey: Why haven't you put in Sunday and...

I had a jealousy dream last night. I dreamed that I overheard Sunday talking to someone else about a woman he was interested in, and I was incredibly jealous because he didn't want me. I was full of sorrow and anger. That was painful, and doubly painful because I was forced to revisit that...

I haven't really had anything to report. Asha and Sunday and their children have been out east dealing with family issues, and Easy and I have been spending a lot of time just focusing on us. Some funny parenting moments happened that I'd love to share but don't really have anyone else to...

Update I'm alive and doing fairly well. The summer with all of the kids has been incredibly hectic and doesn't feel terribly relaxing yet! Between birthdays and visiting relatives, last-minute finishing touches for school and various shows and recitals, we've been having a hard time catching...

The research I did basically told me that they haven't tested the vaccine on anyone over 30, so they don't know how effective it is. Also, the vaccine doesn't protect against very many strains, just the most common ones, so you can still become infected. It seemed more effective to be tested...

Honestly, I'm trying very hard not to be. I'm trying to be a mature adult and tell myself that it just didn't work out, and I don't have less love now and that these things happen. But really, I feel rejected, and frightened about what this means for my future, and lonely, and insecure, and...

I had decided to call it quits with Sunday after Asha came back, but the day before she arrive he suddenly started telling me he loved me when we talked and kissing me spontaneously. I was baffled and hopeful. It was short-lived. We've had some fairly good family moments. Rockstar has...