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    Dating… should I limit myself?

    I don't see a problem with developing a deeper friendship with this woman. A friendship is a prerequisite to a relationship in your case, I'm guessing. Just be sure to be fully honest with her should you wish to pursue a relationship later on. She can make her own decisions providing you give...
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    Suggestions for a long dark spell

    Good for you both. I'm sorry Dahlia can't be a full part of this, but some people just can't. I wish you the best in this journey you are taking together.
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    coming out time?

    Congratulations. I'm happy for you!
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    Long info dump vent...

    A broken heart is a broken heart, no matter what else we have in our lives to pick us up. But, it is unhealthy to be almost obsessed over a person, for whatever reason. I hope this doesn't come to hurt your relationship with your husband. That being said, Elric had a big shock from you. Maybe he...
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    Suggestions for a long dark spell

    Lily, it took alot of courage on your part to come this far and to post here yourself. So don't discount your own strength and ability. Arpeggi is a lucky man to have a woman who loves him enough to try, regardless of the eventual outcome. Also, what vandalin said.
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    intro

    Welcome
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    Is poly a decision or a person's nature?

    Personally, I feel it's in my nature to love deeply multiple people. Just as it is in my nature to be bisexual. However, I can choose to act (at least in the physical sense as I have no control over the depth of emotion) on these feelings. I can choose to be monogomous. I can choose to cheat. Or...
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    Polyamory, commitment, and emotional investment

    For me, polyamory has always been my nature, though I repressed it and usually ended up cheating anyway. I knew from very young I was capable of multiple loving relationships, just as I knew I was attracted physically and emotionally to other women (also long repressed). It was only through alot...
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    Empathic or Sympathetic or both, which one are you?

    For me, it really depends on the person and situation. Most people tell me I'm empathetic. If I have feelings for someone, be they family ties, love or friendship, I am much more empathetic. To children I am empathetic most of the time, because they just strike that nerve in me. With people I...
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    Kid-Related Custody/Legal Fears

    Does the BD know about your situation? If you're not going to be in the closet anyway, perhaps it's best to talk it over with him and get his feelings on the matter. If you have a decent enough relationship and he knows you're a good parent maybe you can have him sign some legal documents...
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    Suggestions for a long dark spell

    I just want to add that you shouldn't allow anyone to degrade you for your way of loving. You didn't use, lie to, cheat on, or intentionally hurt either of these women. You allowed them to be with you with their eyes wide open, even if their hearts could not fully accept what you can and cannot...
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    Beginning exploration

    Welcome and congratulations. You seem to be coming into this with the right attitude and mindset. Your wife is a lucky woman.
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    Work crush

    Your partner needs to know who the "other" is, as being poly and having a successful relationship depends on complete honesty. And, I agree, they should meet.
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    Suggestions for a long dark spell

    This is such a sad situation. You seem to genuinely love these women and I wish you didn't have to feel this pain. The closest to your situation I've ever come was dating two men in my twenties, one my ex-fiance and another one I fell in love with at work. The ex-fiance, Art, didn't know the...
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    Newbie

    Hello and welcome
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    Name This Animal

    Dragon? It's a mythical beast but sounds more manly? Phoenix?
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    Searching for the elusive......

    welcome
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    Please don't judge me

    Badeth, why are you on this board if you oppose polyamory? And your signature about Michigan divorce laws... Hmm...? Maybe you have good reasons, but I find it strange.
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    Polyamory activism

    What JRiver said!
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