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how do you navigate potential relationships with people who DON'T want to date you as long as you're in another relationship? Is this just immediately a "hard stop" in your interest in them or do you try to educate them/get them to come around. My partner struggles with this currently. He's...

We recently were confronted by my Mom. She asked if I had a boyfriend (answer:yes) and if my husband had a girlfriend (answer: yes). Now, I know she's ultra conservitive and has very different ideas of "right" and "wrong" than we (hubby and I and our OSOs).... but she decided to ask us anyway...

Hi! I second BU's inquiries! Looking forward to getting to know more!

hi... i'm online on both AIM and YIM: troubledenergy

I just find this all to be very curious... because I feel it's hard enough to find ONE person with whom I connect, and especially find another couple with whom my husband will find the wife attractive or connect with her. To me, dating another couple would feel too much like "swinging" or "wife...

Great answers. I will offer more thought on this when I'm at a computer and can write more (currently on my iPad lol)

I've seen people mention that they are are seeking a couple rather than individual relationships....so I'm just curious as to what the reasoning is for not wanting individual relatiionships...

My husband and I are on okcupid....and it's been pretty kind to us. Lol

Our relationship progressed and my husband and I really delved into the fact that I had always been non-monogamous but had wanted to be married to him because he and I had a connection stronger than any I had experienced before. I suppose that it should have been a topic of discussion prior to...

I've never had much faith in monogamy. My heart has always been so full on love and energy that I've felt I've been selling myself short when I've been in a monogamous relationship. But dealt with it in my own way of either being faithful or developing what might be thought of as inappropriate...

You really can't be poly without full disclosure. Without that, she's just been cheating, it seems, and claiming to be poly to justify her actions. I'm sorry you are hurting!

The thing is, if you were TRULY #1, she'd be making some significant changes in her life to make that so... or she might have made some efforts to have met you or integrated you into her life somehow, in a way more than online. I think that you need to meet her, meet her husband... or at least...

More about me... I'm 29...mom to 3 beautiful yours, mine, and ours daughters... Adoring wife of almost 5 years to an intelligent, attractive, loving, amazing man... Im currently in school for my masters in psychology and would ultimately like to work in juvenile corrections... In my "spare"...

But....the real question is....after a decade you haven't met....why?

I just wanted to say that I love that post.

Better that she's poly than simply cheating, IMO. Give yourself some time to work through it. And then... Make a choice... But welcome regardless :)

Hmm... Neither wants to share. So how does that work? Sounds frustratingly complex. I wish you luck!

Yes, thank you!! I think it was the fact that she was so new to the concept of actually being in a poly relationship (which, as we all know, is far different than just "dating around") and was already making comments to my husband about not wanting to share him and about having a hard time...

ETA: It wasn't my veto that caused things to end, but rather a combination of things that spiraled into her realizing that this might not be for her.... (The only thing that we have "veto" with for each other, that we agreed upon, was that if our lifestyle was going to ruin our marriage then...

Honestly, I don't know what I'm asking/saying/wanting in all of this. I suppose a lot of it comes from a lifelong mistrust of most women... which was enhanced by this particular woman's reluctance to meet me and her telling me that she was unsure if she would ever be able to. I think that only...