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So, we weren't out as poly to my family. Thisnis not a problem in our dynamic. Im the only one really who is hurt by not being out. I never particularly tried to hide it (I've never been a huge PDA in front of family person), and B was always invited to family dinners once he started to live...

Thanks guys!

That makes perfect sense, thank you Kevin!

It's like I freeze. I maintain the status quo; but when the chances come to deepen the relationship I freeze. Pulling away may have been the wrong word choice. It's like I can see where I am as point A, and point B is a relationship that has both sex and romance but it's like I don't know HOW...

So, I have realized something about myself. While I am comfortable having sexual relationships with other women, I almost knee-jerk emotionally pull away slightly any time I can get closer. My husbands are supportive but ultimately this is my issue to fix and I want to be able to experience...

I'm sorry you are going through this. Good job on keeping your boundaries strong. Take care of yourself

We do planned spontaneity. So, Someone has a date, we clarify ahead of time what it may evolve into; Could that date turn into an overnight and you're gone for an extra night? Then we make sure it works beforehand, so then there are no issues if it does happen. Having a date come over? Make sure...

I can honestly think of nothing nicer then after moving my men sitting with me and playing video games.

I mean I literally told them the reasons I wanted him in (super long wait and I wanted company and I felt really gross and nervous because I was having idiopathic uterine pain and was nervous). I literally said I wanted him there multiple times. I have preexisting conditions and don't like...

Sorry you're lazy and petty enough to stoop and pick up nothing. Mags didn't deserve your pettiness

Every doctor I've seen for any sexually or "feminine" issues asks me, in private and make anyone else leave the room, if I am engaging in non-mono sex. The leaving the room of my partner is very obviously to ensure he doesn't know the answer or even the question. Not in a judgmental way, but to...

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I wanted to think on my response for a bit. This is my poly experience; I'm hoping it's helpful for you. So I prefer kitchen table poly, with more 'labels' laid out and more "what people currently want and/or expect from this relationship' laid out; I'm totally cool with those evolving and...

Honestly I didn't really know about the whole slur thing. I just switch between both because I like both :p

My main question(s) is/are; -What has polya taught you? -What is it currently teaching you? -What do you think it will teach you? What has polya taught you? It's taught me to analyze where/why my jealousy is coming from and how to deal with it, that I am not abnormal for being able and...

Z and I were legally married and owned our house together before we discovered poly. For us, even though the house is in both names I fronted the down payment of 60K so, we both consider the house very much so 'mine' more than an 'ours'. When B moved in, he started to pay what we all considered...

I'm into kink, but there is a lot of stuff I want to do that my body says no to. I am not flexible. I have past injuries that make certain positions for too long painful; I don't get wet easily, my butt doesn't bruise, I gag easily, my scalp is too sensitive for hair pulling. It can make my...

I agree. Like, not all STIs/STDs are easily cured or basically 'harmless'. Why would you expose YOURSELF to that risk, let alone an unsuspecting partner?

I agree with Mags and Vin. At the same time, this isn't fair to you and I think you need to figure out what to do should she ot choose to work on her mental health.