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As a Nb/woman I'm a little more cautious when it comes to a hook-up, I don't do the bar scene, so it would all be via online until the hookup. So far, not a soul has reacted in a negative way, if anything I've been asked for threesomes 100000 times by straight men

I've not had to deal with vulvodynia, but I've run the gamut of weird gyno things. I also have a huge sex drive. My vagina started to dry out like...3 years ago. My GP won't really do anything because I'm 28. It's fine day to day but never really gets "no lube needed" ever. After about a year...

Part of it is reaffirming your own self worth. You are worthy of love, and it is not something you are "lacking" that is making him "not want you" You are still very much so wanted and desired. For me it's like....my heart has so much room to love people in so many ways, so since I don't have...

I tell anyone I'm going to be with as it usually comes up in precoital conversations

This so much. It applies even for emotional distance and neglect too Again, this. I've spent almost my whole life never fully out of the closet for sexuality and now poly; why someone would want that for themselves is beyond me. In the end, even if you take morals out of it, it's not a...

Im not assuming they're suffering. I'm saying that they shouldn't be kept in the dark The fact that it could make the asexual person happy is a major reason why it should be a discussion or at least notification. Then the pressure is actually taken off for real

In terms of cheating. One person is seeing others without the knowledge of their partner. Thus removing their partners ability to have informed consent over whether they want to continue said relationship

My ethics are such that I hold their informed consent higher than my libido. Of course I am entrenched in that. Just as you are entrenched in your views; neither of us are going to change our views on this. I value bodily autonomy, informed and enthusiastic consent, and independence very, very...

Demonize the society all you want; society kinda deserves it for sure. But then also demonize the people who, for what society says is a "not broken" family, stay in relationships that are not correct for them. Inaction is an action. Say something more like "While mom and dad love each...

A divorce doesn't break a family. They're still a family after divorce. What breaks a family is living a life you're miserable with and building resentment. I know many people who are divorced and things stay amicable. Bait and switch implys that she went into this KNOWING she was or would...

Here's another option, they split up due to being massively incompatible. By implying that her saying "I am not having sex anymore" is saying "your needs don't matter" is not accurate. She is saying "I am not having sex anymore, and I need this relationship to be mono" He is well within his...

I'm sorry things have been such a rocky road! On one hand, it's a good sign H is still open to things maybe being open later. It definitely sounds like he's afraid; completely normal especially when coming from a mono mindset as Mags said. I am also team "hookups aren't my jam". Both of my...

She has no moral high ground for not giving him sex just because he wants it...that sounds...really gross. He isn't OWED sex just because they're married and just because he's horny. Her 'decree' is that her body is hers to do with as she wishes. Bodily autonomy is absolutely a thing. Making...

Easier isn't better. It's removing informed consent, delaying problem solving...like, easier sure. But so is ignoring my dog crying to go out at night. But all I'd do is wake up to a crap on the carpet YKWIM? It sounds like, for you, this is definitely a conflicted issue and I'm sorry that...

Oooooh! Thank you for the clarification!:D

I for sure meant poly. The original post and some comments I saw on Facebook directly meant and stated that they were referring to poly and the idea that cheating means you inherently want to be and practice poly. Cheating is practicing non-mono, and absolutely an indicator that being non-mono...

Your friend and his wife sound compatible as friends to me; they already have two massive compatibility issues-Children which they pushed through, and now sex. We do have regular sex...but when Z and I weren't practicing poly, and were a LDR, no one cheated even without sex for, especially us...

I expect to remain faithful as long as he CHOOSES to be in that relationship. ESPECIALLY because they got married knowing they had a difference in want of children, and ESPECIALLY because sexual issues after childbirth like this aren't actually uncommon. It took someone I know 2 years to become...

How is cheating on someone a kindness simply because they don't know? In my experience, you find out eventually. And when you do it's even more devastating. Even if you never find out...I do not see kindness behind lying.

Agreed But do humans not have the ability to, ya know, resist those cravings? To talk about and express needs and cravings? To be ethical? Ethics are a human creation, but we live in a human society. If you have agreements with partner(s), it's not ethical to just ignore them and do whatever...