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  1. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Last week was illuminating. Got back on track with school after taking 1.5 weeks off, started yoga teacher training, and squashed my own personal drama of worrying about the fact that P's sister doesn't fuck w/ me. The week felt like shit starting out, and then ended on a sparkly note.... almost...
  2. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Feeling like: there's not enough time in the day to spend with my loved ones lol My therapist said grad school is like it's own relationship. I said I can be neglectful of her.... and my therapist said "she's for sure a neglectful bitch, so I wouldn't feel too bad" lol. Leaning into feelings...
  3. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    This becomes part poly stuff part mental health diary part dream journal? 🤷‍♀️ Have been setting more clear boundaries with Joe and P. Also journaling thoughts, feelings and dreams a lot. I was having nightmares about my worst insecurities playing out irl earlier this week. In one, I was at a...
  4. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Agreed. Was in a charitable mood when I wrote that lol. Empathizing 2 much I definitely do. I call about good and bad stuff, and it helps me to feel more 'normal'. oof. gets a bit difficult when I'm juggling this much. more difficult when I see/hear judgement of others. I sometimes don't feel...
  5. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    hahaha no need to say sorry. I think that's the vibe as well (minus the "hot" part in Joe's case, as I think he is just indifferent about it), and it doesn't seem sustainable for me to do all of this fckn work for them both to pretend they're each in a monogamous relationship with me. I think...
  6. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Thanks Magdlyn! This feels validating. My relationship with P still seems like something no one wants to discuss (even P sometimes doesn’t want to talk about logistics stuff, although he’s always down to listen) and because no one except me is practicing polyamory, any time I bring up the...
  7. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Hey Kevin :) I agree with all of this, pero I can't make someone so tangential to me respect my relationships or back away, unfortunately. Here's to hoping she gets the message by me not associating with her for a while. And if she doesn't, at least I've solved my issue of not wanting to be...
  8. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    yeah. Have told Joe and P this since I lasted posted, they were both understanding. I had a feeling before leaving that something not great was going to happen and I often feel this way before hanging out with her. Like a "if I was in a sticky situation this person would leave me" vibe. Not...
  9. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    I do, actually, sometimes just getting on here and blasting the poly relationships corner makes me feel better regardless of feedback. Edited. thanks for suggestion Yes! I am at that point. I have not wanted to miss out on things P, Joe and I were going to do anyway that she was invited to...
  10. mountaingirl

    Not getting along with partner's sister (sry for the length)

    Joe is my husband of 3 years, and P is my partner of nearly 2 years. There are many reasons why I haven't gotten along with P's sister. We're really just incompatible humans; I find her to be selfish and high maintenance and I get the idea that she thinks I'm too emotional. P and Joe refer to...
  11. mountaingirl

    Glossary and Definitions

    I'm in a similar situation as Sarah. I inadvertently confuse people all the time, talking about my "boyfriend" and my "husband" in the same conversation. lol 🤷‍♀️ I think it just depends on what makes you all comfortable. If people are close enough with me to know details of my relationships...
  12. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Feeling excited! Me, P, Joe and P's sister are headed to Vegas this weekend to see Bad Bunny. Life is good. School is good. Lots of exciting things around the corner. I start my yoga teacher training next month, which I've been waiting to do for ~ 5 years. My sister's wedding is in a couple...
  13. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    this is really helpful with Joe. he has always wanted to help me with all my problems, but as I get more into my career and started dating P, it's not possible for him to help me with all the issues that don't concern him. as I learn more about each of them I get better with this. We've all...
  14. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    multiamory is awesome. I just read the podcast, thank you so much! I think me and P are great at sharing/intimacy, and he can definitely listen to venting/give comforting hugs, but is awful at providing solutions/feedback, even when it involves our relationship. Joe finds it hard not to try and...
  15. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    Going to try to write here about once a week when possible. Went to see that concert with Joe last week. It was awesome :) He was very positive, and after having somewhat of an outburst of negative emotions for the past couple weekends it was nice to just share time together and focus on each...
  16. mountaingirl

    Burnt out by triad--now what?

    wow lol just know you can get unblacklisted. my mom was reported by SPCA when she turned in a stray with cigarette burns in here ears :( she just had to explain herself and fill out some paperwork. I agree with Evie. I would just leave. the legal battle is not worth staying in a house that you...
  17. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    This weekend was pretty trash. Felt like a lot of steps backwards for me mentally and for my relationship w/ Joe. I went on a date w P Friday, which was nice. Went to an art walk and then watched new game of thrones spinoff with our roommate. joe was in a mood about it Saturday. He asked me if...
  18. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    A funny story (now it's funny anyway): one time i got so high i thought i shit myself in public. Do I have a history of incontinence? nope. But I got separated from my group and was CONVINCED that I shit myself and everyone knew hahaha the more i tripped out the more people stared at me. it was...
  19. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    i definitely take in feedback from ppl who care. it's filtering that feedback and dumping the comments from ppl who don't have my best interests in mind that is hard. one thing i wasn't ready for when I started to date P is all of the opinions i would get from acquaintances & absolute strangers...
  20. mountaingirl

    Still learning to ride the wave

    ahhh social anxiety. yeah idk if I'll ever really outgrow it.. sometimes im unsure if it's caring what other people think or fearing for my own safety when around a bunch of unpredictable humans. probably a combination. but weed + social anxiety is definitely a recipe for disaster hahaha
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