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I think it can be easier to forgive others, as opposed to our parents, because there can be a great deal of expectations as to what parents are "supposed" to do, give, and be in a child's life. We want them to be certain things for us, but in the end, they are just people like everyone else. In...

BV is Bacterial Vaginosis. It's just another bacterial type infection you can get pretty easily from stuff getting in there that shouldn't. :eek:

No, it's not about exposure therapy. It's actually much closer to the Buddhist teachings of mindfulness. To feel the emotion and how it is in your body and let it go, instead of then thinking "I'm mad. It's so-and-so's fault. They don't really love me," etc., which continues the feeling, makes...

Hey there, Darknyss. I don't have time to post much, but I did want to say that Borderline PD can definitely be helped with Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Basically, it just teaches you skills to learn how to feel your emotions, and deal with them without automatically reacting and letting your...

Having also been in the position of trying to rebuild trust after being lied to... I totally get this. After learning about the story, all I ever wanted was for him to say "I'm sorry I lied. I panicked and then was too scared to go back and correct myself. I know how much this hurt you and I see...

I love this!

In your bed, huh? :D I'm glad to hear that you two had a good talk. It's amazing what a little communication will do (when both sides are participating honestly!) Maybe I related a bit more because hubs and I have gone through some of this dishonesty/trust stuff in our past. In the end, he...

I do kind of see you running in circles with this... and I do understand it some, I think, because I've spun in those circles as well. I don't have a lot of advice to offer, but I do have a little. Stop. You need to stop spinning things around in your head because it's not getting you...

That, to me, is a big red flag of dishonesty. Not wanting you two to meet indicates he doesn't want you to start talking and finding out the discrepencies in what he's been telling both of you. It's the very opposite of open, honest, relationships with multiple people. :(

I just had to deal with this issue very recently. Energy and focus-- when someone is in constant contact with another person, their energy and focus is sapped and they are never really THERE with you. We had to do a bit more scheduling and dedicate some focused time for US to connect, because...

You made me laugh at this. :D And then I wrote down the books for my reading list. I'll try not to feel insulted. ;)

That sounds so cool! :) I did have a pinhole camera when I was a kid... don't remember why that happened, probably something my stepdad decided would be fun. LOL. I love photography, but have no time in my life for that hobby right now. I took photojournalism in college and loved it-- used to...

I get you on that one. :) I think Mad's right in that asking him what he likes will help a lot. It definitely helps to get a handle on what your partner likes and what they feel about coming, etc. It still amazes me sometimes how completely different our likes, turnons, and even physical...

Sorry about Bear. :( Ah, schools, LOL. I homeschooled my daughter until 2nd grade then I had to go back to work but luckily at the time we lived right next to a Charter school that was wonderful. They had "levels" instead of grades, so the kids could stay in whatever level suited them socially...

Yes. This.

I love the book series so far, it goes on FOREVER! :) And thank you, that's sweet. Smoke and mirrors! :) No, really I'm just finally accepting I don't have it all together and that's ok. Nobody else does either. The best I can do is start being more aware and more present and more loving and...

I agree that there are so many ways to enjoy sex and it's a shame there's such a stressor on "end results". :( Maybe it's our job as sexual explorers to pass the word around: orgasms are not required, creativity is!

Just wanted to check in. It's nice to post when things are positive :) The weekend was really nice. Low-key for sure, and lots of relaxing. But also we got to get out and do some things together, and had time for a little chatting on all things important. We ended up geocaching on Saturday...

LOL got me on that one. :)

True. However I doubt that lying to people can ever be called ethical, and this seems to be the biggest "ethical violation" I see people doing to each other (in monogamous or poly relationships). It's like people think disclosure and honesty is all great to a point-- until something comes up...