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I don't really see this as one of those "games" people play-- like playing hard to get so that the person will chase you. What I see is that you are recognizing that Gia needs space, and even though you would prefer to see her all of the time, you are respecting that need and giving her the time...

This!! Hate to beat a dead horse but he's still presentin this all to her as you two are "together for the children" and not fully intimate lovers and partners.

My two experiences from the Pride weekend this summer (which I had a FABULOUS time at, by the way!)-- I went dancing with a group of bisexual women I know (met at a meetup group a few years ago). We had drinks and dinner, then moseyed down the street and hit one club (mostly guys) early, on our...

I was thinking the same thing. Tell him he needs to tell her what's going on and have you guys meet in the next week, or YOU will. And yes, stop putting this all on yourself. The way he is treating you and her has nothing to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with him. Maybe it's because he's...

Hey there! I had to sneak in a comment because if anybody knows about travelling hubbies it's me. :) Hubs is in the navy and has been gone about 19 months out of the past 36. It does kind of suck, but at least it's only 4 months, and you'll still get to see him a bit in there. But... a few...

LOL, not always! This happens to be something I am working on myself right now-- and something I'm trying to get hubs to do as well. Because as much as things bug, and stuff isn't the way I'd like, when I really take a good hard look at my life and what I DO have... it's crazy good. And it's a...

I will admit I tend to be the worrier/anxiety person, so I see the trouble that COULD happen a lot! LOL.. so take that, and this, with a grain of salt. But... still... you don't know her that well. Maybe once she learns he's not separating from you, that you're NOT spending all of your time...

Just a thought that came to me... has he thought about what's going to happen when he 1) calls it off with her with no warning or 2) she finds out he lied to her completely about your relationship and other things-- with this woman he WORKS with? Ay, yi, yi. I really don't understand when...

So things have been going well. :) It's really nice to have hubs home. This week has been a busy beeyatch of a week, though. Once the weekend hits things will calm WAY down, so very much looking forward to that! I've been a bit under the weather this week as well. :-( Probably from the busyness...

I'm going to ask you a question, but don't take it the wrong way. :D Seriously, it's only to do some thought-provoking. Why is not getting everything you want exactly how you want it, getting in the way of you enjoying what you have? I ask because I see this a lot, where people focus on the...

Carma, you're describing NRE from the point of view of the person IN NRE. I can tell you that's NOT how it feels to the other person left out of it if the person in NRE isn't taking care of their shit. Warning: This part is strictly my personal experience, so take it for what it's worth. When...

NRE can be brutal, especially if someone is new to polyamory, but even if they are experienced it can whirl you away in the hormones and chemicals. If she's serious about being ethical and thoughtful to the romantic partners in her life, I'd seriously suggest she read everything possible on...

Wierd that they won't pay for both, lots of insurance will pay for individual and "family" therapy. And most therapists will bill the insurance for family therapy, even if it's a couple (who's to say how many it takes to be a family). If you asked your insurance company about "marraige" therapy...

THIS. This is what he needs to hear. That he is eroding your trust in him by lying and sneaking and downplaying things so that you get one impression when maybe that's not true. Trust is so important and once it's broken it's tough to get back and it's never quite the same. Maybe part of the...

Here's my thoughts... and feel free to disagree with them, but this is from my own personal opinion on things and keep in mind some of this is hitting home for me in some ways, so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it (so grain of salt and all that) :) Yes, he needs to do poly his way, and he's...

Yeah, I didn't get meaning at all from your statement. But thanks for clarifying, now I know what you meant.

This quote you quoted wasn't directed specifically at polyamory at all. It was directed at opinions in general. Marraige means different things to different people, and one person may have a certain idea of marraige and think anybody else who sees it differently is wrong. My point was what Neon...

Very concisely put, thank you! And that is what I meant.

I have always identified as "nonmonogamous", and that's it. To me that describes what it needs to-- that I am not monogamous by nature-- and leaves the rest open to whatever it ends up being. For me it just means that if someone comes along that I develop feelings for and things seem to move...

Ahhhhh.... much better! :) And I love that song, LOL... We had a great three days away (in town)... but got super burnt at the pool on Saturday, LOL. Still... nice and relaxing and fun. Now back to the real world.... booo! :) Not so bad for me, but he's got a lot of adjusting to do...