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Yes, communication is an ongoing process. I have to say, too, that since doing a lot of reading on ADD it's helped me a lot to understand some of the things my hubs does and how his brain works. Communication is difficult because often he thinks he's told me things he hasn't, or he...

I don't know about you, but I'm finding that NRE + ADD = AAARRRRRGGGHHHHH!!!! It's a million times more hard to deal with than regular NRE because of that ADD "focus" they do at the beginning of relationships to the exclusion of everything else. It's like I don't exist anymore. And he never...

I think that you'll never know what's going on until she opens up and tells you. And my honest opinion is that if she cannot express what's going on with her in regards to you, then any relationship she has with your husband will be uncomfortable and painful for you, which will cause problems...

So got to chat with hubs today which was nice. Sometimes I forget what his voice sounds like! A week from today he'll be flying to VA and then checking out there, so hopefully home Friday night OR Saturday morning sometime. I'm making plans accordingly, knowing they are going to be fluid...

So had a nice Skype date with hubs on Monday. Very mellow and we got to enjoy each other which was nice! :) Making plans for when he gets home, though it's still up in the air. And I have a ton of crap I have to get done between now and then, as usual! LOL I've been thinking a lot about...

I agree that you don't have to necessarily get who your partner is with. Or particularly like them. But yes respect is good (which requires having an open mind). Sure it would be nice if everyone could hang out, but that shouldn't necessarily be a requirement. I do have to throw in that...

So I had a good weekend. Spent Saturday with my daughter, went to a friend's house for a while, then did some shopping and such. Sunday I met with a guy from OKC. It was a nice lunch, good conversation. He's already poly, and bi, so no explaining all of that which was nice. Not sure about the...

I think sometimes gut instinct kicks in. We may not immediately recognize it and sometimes we second guess it. But I'm finding now that usually when I'm not comfortable with someone or things don't feel right there's almost alwYs a pretty good reason. I'm done with not trusting my instincts.

Man am I glad it's Friday! :) A lot of good stuff planned for this weekend... starting with hot yoga right after work! :) It's been a hard week, but productive. I feel much more grounded now, much more in touch with things and much more optimistic-- in a let's take everything as it comes...

Interesting isn't that? I found that this time around when hubs was starting this new relationship, he was doing everything in the right fashion, and there still were tons of things that came up-- mostly because we'd never REALLY done it the right way before. And I think that with each new...

LMAO I like that one. I'm good at asking for clarification, for sure. Interestingly... since I've been kind of going back to basics here for myself in looking at the people we are and how we function and what we give each other, I reminded myself of a lot of stuff I had come to conclusions...

Ditto. It will come out anyway, in your actions if nowhere else. Sure it might hurt, but it will hurt less than if it happens later and she realizes you didn't want to be there the whole time.

Vix... Hubs and I have been in that position, too, where it comes out after a few drinks-- bad timing for a serious conversation! But I've figured out that's because he has such a hard time opening up about that stuff he has to be buzzed to do it. :( I'm learning now, that it's better for me...

LOL... that is the TRUTH. The other fun one is when he says something that makes no sense because whatever information should have come first he didn't tell me, he only thought he did. Or he had that part of the conversation in his head. He's aware of all of that... I just really think that's...

Maybe. Or maybe learning to live each day as it comes, without a plan, is freeing. :) I'm finding that when I thought I knew where things were going I was mistaken. We never know where they're going. If you understand and accept that, you can take twists and turns and variations a lot easier...

You know I think it's not that uncommon! :) I do think it's gets overdiagnosed a lot, though, especially in kids. His daughter has it as well, and is currently taking meds, but we're going to have her reevaluated when she moves down here. And that should be REALLY interesting because he tends...

I started rereading some of my ADHD books this week. I know that being a psychology counseling student there is a danger of "diagnosing" people-- and noticing traits and things that I wouldn't have before. I'm trying to balance noticing these things with not sticking people into a "category"...

LOL, yeah... we've had that "oh, that's what all the pain and agony was for" moment a few times... just not about this! (yet) :) And the not pushing you and Cookie to form fast friendships is a good one too. I need to get hubs on that train as well. Part of our convo on Monday was about that...

NRE is an interesting thing to watch from the outside. For a while it was really frustrating me, but I did realize there's not a thing I can say or do about it, so why keep worrying about it? I have been thinking about the whole feeling/labeling/prioritizing/status of relationships a lot. I'm...

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