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I would say not at all more evolved. It's just a different way of going about things. A way that is as fraught with chances to get things wrong and behave unkindly as any other way of going about relationships is. Yes - lots of mono folks can't stand discussing any form of non-monogamy or...

Maybe that's part of the problem? I don't think I'd enjoy sex very much if I knew that I was expected to have somewhere between 2 and 5 orgasms every time I had sex. People vary enormously in what they prefer and it is very much my preference that 1 orgasm is enough most of the time. In...

So much agree with this. It's just different ways of going about relationships. One is not inherently better than the other. Absolutely. :)

Absolutely. Nobody should be expected to endure a bad situation indefinitely. Especially when it comes to enduring it in a personal relationship with another human adult who is capable of making their own decisions and their own way in the world. It is very important to see that nobody is...

Fantastic video, River. I really enjoyed it. I'm also very much in agreement with the comments made by HFA. I have noticed that the same message comes through over and over again in different areas of my life. The truth that HFA spoke of is one I see repeated often among dog trainers...

This is all sounds so tough. I suspect that the differing socialisation that men and women receive - especially when young are making this harder for both of you than it could be. You said somewhere that you and your wife were together for 3 years before you got married. During that time...

Tough position to be in. For me, this is one of the tricky things about marriage - you do promise to have eyes for only one person no matter what happens until one of you dies. Which is not, in my opinion, terribly realistic. Married and partnered people are then also encouraged to think of...

Reverie - I'm sad to read your recent updates. From reading your blog, it seems as if you have a fun filled life filled with good friends and love. More - you seem to be good at appreciating what you have and working to make your life better. Huge kudos for these things. Your latest...

Thanks River. :D Wonderful quote. I do love George Orwell. His work is so insightful, so relevant to the world now.

I feel exactly the same way. :D I don't think it's sad to feel more bonded with sexual partners. I think that bonded feeling is partly what sex is for. Plus, it's a lovely way to feel - I experience it as a quite intoxicating rush of closeness. I think that time, shared experiences, being...

Interesting subject. I am a UK citizen and have lived here all my life but haven't noticed much physical affection between men. I don't think it's a sexual thing - I include homosexual men in that. Brits tend to be quite physically reserved on the whole. There are, obviously, exceptions...

lol. I know lots of men who're married and who don't appear to able to behave in any way that would demonstrate a deep romantic, emotional connection - even with the sex. Sometimes their wives would describe the same thing - a husband who is a good provider, is stable, is a good sexual partner...

What is it that you and your fiance hope to get out of relationships with others? Somebody to share thoughts, feelings and troubles with? Somebody to go out and do fun things with? If it's that sort of thing, I'd call it a friendship. Deep connection and connection that lasts for a long...

I really hope that the counselling helps, Journey. It can be very very difficult to listen to each other when the subject is emotionally challenging. Hopefully having somebody else there to help you will be useful. I'm not convinced that striving to be open minded is something I'd want to do...

I'm on holiday with some friends. Having an amazing time catching up with each other. Today we ran into another old friend of mine - with his partner who I've never met. They seemed incredibly happy and in love. Wonderful to see people as happy as that. I'm having such a love filled time. :-)

I've seen the 2 - 3 times a week thing being average loads too, Norwegianpoly. It's something that I think causes lots of anxiety. People who like loads more sex than that then sometimes beat themselves up about being overly sexual or have counsellors who tell them they are addicts...

This all sounds incredibly tough. I firmly believe that questioning and examining beliefs - and everything else - is a good thing to do. Particularly things that are used to get obedience from large groups of people. Religion, government, how workplaces are structured. All up for debate and...

I'm glad that Dude got in touch and I hope that you feel better. I know that it doesn't always help anxiety to hear what others think but the bond that you and Dude share sounds very strong. Also - the life he has with all of you sounds like pretty much what he wants. It seems highly unlikely...

I'm so glad to read about your resolution and decisions made. :D Fantastic - I very much hope that the adjustments make all the difference. I also watch carefully for signs of people wanting to compete with me. Don't necessarily do anything about it but sometimes it is useful to be aware...

I have to say that I'm absolutely loving your blog. :) So good to read about your adventures, how well you handle any struggles that you come across and also how much you do with your kids and your dedication to your studies. Excellent stuff. :D