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I'm sorry your work contract was not renewed. I think you'd be very good at poly/kink counseling. You give great advice here! Good luck as you find a new path forward.

I don't agree that polyamory is necessarily wrong for you. It sounds like the philosophy of poly relationships inherently makes sense to you, and that you feel you benefit from your queer platonic relationship. You were initially happy and supportive of you and your wife becoming poly. I don't...

How does Jess (your wife) feel about being more open about it? She's the one who has the right to decide how to present her marriage to her own parents (your in-laws). Just from reading your blog, I have the sense you want to proclaim your love for Dawn from the rooftops. You feel like you are...

They're not going to "get back together" for long, though, either.

I'm not sure what kind of advice I could give you because I'm not sure what you're asking, because everything you describe sounds... fine? Happy, even? It sounds like you're in a happy poly relationship with your wife, and she has a good relationship with her semi-long-distance boyfriend Simon...

I'm so glad it took MUCH less than 6 months for this relationship to blow up! Give your wife some grace. I think her behavior has largely been the result of this guy being weird right from the beginning. She didn't know how to handle it and now she probably needs time to process everything.

Your English is very good, by the way! You are totally in the right, and you are not doing anything unreasonable. I understand why you're so hurt. BUT I actually think you should regard this as a temporary situation that will resolve itself soon enough if you do your best to ignore it as much...

My first thought for you: Giving your partner the freedom of an open marriage sounds totally fine to me. But if you want to do that, you have to figure out a way to become okay with them having sex with others. That could be as simple as you accepting the emotional discomfort, sitting with it...

You may want to put more serious effort into your relationship with Jess. The gifts are just a symbol; Jess is asking for as much time and attention and appreciation as you devote to Dawn (or at least more than Jess is getting now). It's not about money or spending. Spend some time "dating"...

Actually, Tinwen, your partner sounds very similar in many ways to my ex Eli. That's what I came here to say. I totally get what you mean about having a relationship that people in your life were always skeptical about, and that no one's advice fits your situation. I loved Eli deeply for 12...

I actually get what Tinwen means here, and I just added a comment to Rachelina's thread with a slightly different slant than the previous advice. I've definitely felt like I am seeing more threads where it seems like the people involved should definitely break up. I have found myself giving...

Hi Rachelina, When I read your first post on this thread, my first thought was that maybe you were having a mental health issue rather than that you should consider leaving your husband. You described yourself as previously happy in a mono/poly marriage and having a good relationship with your...

An important thing about poly dating is that sometimes people get distracted by the poly part of it and miss the fact that the relationship is just not working. Maybe you and she just don't click. If you were dating a monogamous woman for a few months and felt she'd been distant from you the...

In theory, it might work no differently than families where someone has a child with their ex. The biological parents live in separate households, the child either lives with one parent or moves between both households (with or without stepparents/step-/half-siblings in either household). Except...

Just one quick thing on your terminology, since you said you weren't sure if you were using the right terms. "Triad" means three people all dating/having sex with each other. What you are seeking is a "Vee" arrangement where you would be in a relationship with your wife and in a separate...

The term "one-penis policy" (OPP) wasn't intended to describe situations like yours. It was coined to make fun of men who date multiple women while demanding that those women aren't allowed to date other men (although they can have sex with other women/each other). It's a term meant to mock...

Something to think about: The woman you connected with in the bar is probably NOT polyamorous. Most of the women who flirt with you in the bar are probably NOT polyamorous. Most people (in our current world) are monogamous and looking for a monogamous relationship. Some people might be willing...

Oh, well. Now I have read your past post, in which I was one of the people who advised you to break up with Emma. Emma previously had a problem with violating people's consent during sex, including your own. Has she reckoned with that behavior? Have you? It sounds like Emma has made an effort...

Well, if everybody is happy and behaving in emotionally healthy ways now, then there is no problem now. Although I would think very carefully about all of you living together in one big house. Wouldn't it inhibit your sex life with Emma to share a house with June and Kiddo? Might June not...

Oh, that's funny! I don't thinking of it that way. I think of it as, "You can only date One Vagina/Penis, which is mine!" Rather than, "There can be only One Vagina/Penis in the Polycule!" :ROFLMAO: