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I think if he's assuming that any woman you date ought to be willing to fuck him too, and that you'll be required to dump a girlfriend who likes you but who's not into him, then that does indeed sound misogynistic, because it is not giving women (either you or anyone you date) a lot of agency to...

Regarding the issue with your friends not being supportive of non-monogamy, I hear you. That's a common problem for non-monogamous people. We wouldn't need forums like this if we could get helpful advice from our friends! It's not just a matter of finding better friends or more...

When she said she can't be away from her boys, I was assuming kids under 8 or so. Teenagers don't need their mom home every night. It's okay to break up with her and find someone who is excited to spend a night in a hotel or so.

You say your "bunch" of kids can be handful...does that mean you have more than 2 children under age 7?

This is a lot. I'm sorry you are going through this. However, this situation has occurred because you and Shaun have spent decades enabling Kelly's drinking. This situation isn't particularly complex when framed that way. Kelly is an alcoholic and she has needed help since at least 2009. You...

OMG. I missed this when it first came out. Thanks for sharing! :ROFLMAO:

I am sorry you are experiencing this. Can I ask how old everyone is? This sounds like drama that shouldn't be occurring if everyone is over age 22. Unfortunately, I agree with others that the problem here is Flame. Storm is gonna be Storm wherever she goes--manipulative, desperate, possessive...

I'm sorry you're going through this and have had such a difficult time lately. You don't mention at all how Apple feels about you wanting to date his sister. Are you and Apple in a poly relationship? How much experience do you have with poly dating? Have you dated women before, or have you...

So, I get it. You feel your husband encouraged you to be poly, even perhaps pushed you into it when you were doubtful. He encouraged you to date his best friend, even though you all were already getting a house together and you had doubts it was a good idea. He reassured you that everything was...

Cont'd again from above. I am, again, sorry about all this, and I do understand where you're coming from in feeling betrayed by your husband's posts here. If it helps, here's my story: When I was in my 20s, I had a long-distance boyfriend named David who I had met through our shared mutual...

Continued from above... But, I am puzzled about the wide gaps between how you describe things and how your husband describes things. And how wildly different your first post was from this one, and even how different your husband's first thread was from his second. There's context, and then...

Oh, gosh. I hope you will be back to read this because I think you misinterpreted our intent here. I have pondered how to respond to this and I am sorry that my comments in your husband's thread contributed to this. I don't think you're a villain, and I don't think that's what anyone else was...

It seems weird to me that he's professing his love and devotion to you after only two dates. Do things normally move that fast for you in monogamous dating? Even with NRE (the excitement of dating a new person), it seems very fast. You two don't actually know each other well enough yet to know...

I assume LAT is "living apart together"...which is actually what I identify with and is my most ideal relationship model! I am childless by choice, but it LAT makes a lot of sense for a single parent too. As a poly person, I found the label "solo poly" helpful for a long time, as it focuses on...

Tyler sounds very needy and like he manages to make his problems YOUR problems. Instead of owning his own feelings, adjusting his expectations, focusing more energy on poly dating other people, etc.

If possible, you should consider having a wall light behind the bed over the middle of the bed, so the person sleeping in the middle has a reading light (if they read in bed) and can also reach a light switch if they wake in the night. Or a shelf behind the bed so the middle person can put...

My first thought is that the spark of passion in a long-established couple can wax and wane over time, especially if you currently have a young kid. You and your wife might get the spark back at a future time. But probably not until she's out of the NRE phase with her boyfriend, unfortunately...

I'm sorry that you are going through this, and for losing your mom too. Your feelings make sense, about everything. Have you looked into grief therapy? Or a support group for family members of people who died by suicide? I'm sure you're not alone in your anger.

I see a lot of posts here where both/all people in the situation have legitimate points of view. This isn't one of them. Tyler's hang-up around "firsts" for plane rides and train rides is ridiculous. Unless you're flying the plane, riding in a commercial airline has nothing to do with aviation...

That makes sense, dingedheart. Thanks for replying!