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I had thyroid surgery in 2018 (4 years before my hysterectomy). Lobectomy, removing half my thyroid due to a suspicious nodule with inconclusive biopsy results. The surgery was out-patient and the recovery was not painful. After they removed it, they were able to determine that the nodule was...

I think they're just doing a kink thing.

I like your use of "polyaming" as a verb, that's kinda cute. Just let your metamour have space and don't stress too much about it.

Your wife might SOMEDAY consent to some form of an open marriage BUT ONLY IF you DO NOT cheat on her with, or ask permission to sleep with, HER LIFELONG BEST FRIEND WHO LIVES IN YOUR HOUSE while your wife is PREGNANT WITH YOUR CHILD. You would destroy your marriage, your wife's best friendship...

The title of your post makes the situation sound worse than it is. Your dad is upset and worried you're headed for divorce. His message sounds heartfelt and full of his own pain. His opinions are obviously more about him than about you. Of course it's not acceptable for him to refuse to...

Definitely break up with them. They aren't being fair to you. They'd have to meet and approve of any new partners you get--even a PLATONIC partner? Hell, no. You've only been with them for 3 months. It would be sad if you lose your long friendship with Levi, but that could be something to try...

You're 18...which should be a fun and free age to be exploring yourself and figuring out YOUR life. Do you have any nights where you sleep alone / live by yourself? (That could include being in a college dorm or with your family of origin). You really should be having some time to yourself...

If I may ask, what was this like for Elijah? Was he seeing other people? Did he ever express being stressed out by being your only ‘partner’ in that sense? Did you practice anything that made it easier for him? I’m guessing that you lived far away enough from each other that getting overwhelmed...

Also, I have a question specifically because you titled your post "Poly Fidelity." What is important about the fidelity part of your arrangement? Why is your V closed? Are you and Willow both mono and happy not dating anyone other than Maple? Are you excited and happy about your future with...

By "solo travel," do you actually mean separate-dyad travel? Like you with Maple on a trip without your metamour (Willow), then Maple and Willow on their own trip without you? Because yes, that should be fine and in fact Maple should be able to take separate vacations with each of her...

I think you need to sit down with your wife and tell her that you feel neglected. You have been going out of your way to be her emotional and logistical (extra childcare/house chores) support as she deals with her dating woes. But you feel she is taking you for granted by not appreciating your...

Sorry, I'm still not clear. The poly woman you are talking about in your posts here is a different person than your wife of 35 years?

Yeah, I think it is totally different if a long-established monogamous couple is opening their relationship for the first time, versus experienced poly people, especially if one partner is mono and struggling. In those cases, the poly partner should respect their mono partner's limits, and...

I have not noticed this as a theme in polyamory (and I've been reading this forum for about 14 years now), so I don't quite get what you're saying. But overnights with a partner seems like something that's pretty normal to do / to want / to expect in any type of dating. I personally have...

Glad you've decided to break up with them! In your other post, I didn't realize you are only 19 and they are only 21. You sound very mature for 19! You have so much life ahead of you and you will meet awesome people. Don't let this poor experience with poly phase you. Keep on poly dating! You...

I think you will feel a lot better about everything if you dump them.

Is this woman your wife? How long have you been married? Do you have children?

Does the secrecy around his casual sex partners bother your metamour, too? It does seem weird that he needs to hide it. My former partner of many years had both serious other partners and many casual encounters over the 12 years of our relationship, and he always talked openly about both.

Would you want to date other people and still date them? Triads don't have to be closed. Usually, it's the established couple that wants a closed triad. Great for them--they don't have to deal with the emotions of each of them dating other people besides their shared girlfriend. Being closed...

There isn't a lot in this thread considering Red Beauty's point of view. I don't understand why your triad/V has to be closed. If Red Beauty wanted to date other people, for example to find another serious partner of her own who isn't married to someone else, would she be able to do that? It's...