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This is such a bizarre "debate." All Magdlyn said is that the modern polyamory movement is feminist in origin, as in, it is an outgrowth of the feminist movements of 1980s and 1990s. This is factually, historically, and contextually correct, and no one should be making such a fuss about...

I'm wondering if you need to text John at all during his dates with Ted. Maybe just assume that Ted might stay over (as it is normal, in dating, for the date to be likely to stay over). Make your plans accordingly and don't feel you need to let John know at all. Imagine that you're roommates on...

Humans, in general, tend to frequently fall in love with their sexual partners. Even if your wife thinks that won't happen, it might.

Are you and your husband going on joint dates with other guys? Does your husband actually want to do that? Like, is he bi, interested in MFM threesomes, etc.? Poly people usually go on dates alone and form individual, separate relationships. It's very hard to date as a couple.

If you are still being sexual with him, please make sure you are using good birth control (that he does not have access to). I think his plan is to keep having more babies with both you and the other woman to trap you both into staying with him. You sound kind, thoughtful, and too awesome to...

Try setting up an OK Cupid profile, listing yourself as non-monogamous, and see who you connect with. Being single is for sure the best time to try polyamory...it sure beats trying to convince a reluctant, monogamous partner that being poly will be great for everyone!

You've gotten some good advice here. I would also suggest clarifying two things with John (your partner): 1) It is totally normal in poly relationships for someone to have mixed feelings about their partner's other relationship, such as struggling to process your feelings about his trip with a...

OP, you technically have a Vee, not a Triad, since you and the wife are not involved with each other. But I can see how the term triad makes sense for the family and life you are building with the three of you. Personally, I would not enjoy a dynamic where I watched/witnessed my partner's kink...

That sounds very sweet and healthy!

Is your primary partner struggling with you being poly and/or struggling with your other poly relationship? Or were they struggling initially, but are okay now? I would guess your friends feel some (possibly misguided) loyalty towards your PP and feel like it would be a betrayal of your PP for...

I actually do think the world--and especially the dating landscape--is different post-pandemic. Something has shifted. I can't quite articulate it. It might have to do with how mentally exhausted liberal Americans are with the bleak state of American politics, the loss of abortion rights, the...

My advice would be to let this play out and and the chips fall as they may. Jordan's sudden decision to move into a four-person poly household with someone he's been dating for six months, whose marriage just ended (plus his wife & his metamour)-- well, I suspect it is unlikely to go very well...

It sounds like you might be interested in being "solo poly"? Maybe that would be a useful term for you to research?

I get where you're coming from. I have previously been happy in long-term FWB arrangements where I did not want to be a girlfriend, and I believe philosophically that there is such a thing as sexual friendships, that work they way friendships normally do except that what you share as friends is...

Another typical answer, whenever this question gets asked, is to remind you that full-grown adults living real life might have difficulty consistently sleeping in a 3-person bed, no matter how big it is. It might make sense to have a second bed in a separate room as a back-up for if someone has...

Back to the original topic. What has held me back from doing poly dating, even while in a long-term poly relationship where my partner had many other relationships, is finding only limited options under the "poly" or "non-monogamous" label (via online dating). In my twenties, I was practicing...

Me too, haha. Also an old millennial born in 1981. But culturally I identify more with Gen Xers. Graduating high school in 1999, I feel like the last & youngest Gen Xer, rather than the first millennial. About the topic of this thread, poly relationships are definitely more mainstream for...

Personally, I would rather BE part of someone's relationship collage than be responsible for meeting all of their relationship needs. Especially when I was younger and prioritized working on making my own life complete on my own. Now that I am older and more established in my own life, I can...

Thanks, this is all super helpful!

This is not a specifically poly question. I have started seeing a new guy (cis man) I'll call Rick. Although I have been in a poly relationship with Eli for 12 years, I never dated anyone else beyond a few dates in the first year Eli and I were together, so this is my first new partner in over...