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i am glad you did too, quila, and send a hug your way (hope that's ok!) x

hugs back at you raven, in fact i think this huggy mood is infectious because i too would like to send hugs out to HappiestManAlive, Ceoli, and the many other wonderful people out there, i hope you know who you are! :D xxx

i understand and i apologise for forgetting momentarily about the lack of public funding for legal representation in the united states. here i was able to access advice and representation at no cost to myself. i also understand and agree strongly with your desire to protect the children from...

re - the questions about swinging/polyamory. for me it is fairly simple. swingers self-identify as swingers and as i understand it do not experience the emotion of love for the people they swing with. people who have polyamorous relationships/are polyamorous identify as such and do experience...

redpepper i hope you don't me saying this (i respect your views i just don't entirely understand them). why is it that you are uncomfortable about including sex to the extent you describe? you have, it is true, repeatedly said that you don't like this (or words to that effect) but what i am...

me too, absolutely. we have acheived this in the UK largely because our government signed up to the universal declaration of human rights and went on to adopt european wide legislation to back it up. if any agency here were to judge a childcarer/parent based on their sexuality or sexual...

Also, strictly speaking a one-night stand is a relationship between two people who relate to each other for the evening or the night. I realise that's not how the word "relationship" is usually used, but in terms of dictionary definitions it is correct. They do relate with each other for the...

Crisare, I guess if I am upset by some of the posts here (not just yours, I should add), it is because I read them as saying that I am not polyamorous, and therefore, not a part of this community, and also because the unspoken message reflects wider society, in that it rejects what it can't...

i feel for you, i really do. this is a difficult situation for you to be in i do understand that. i myself was until recently the full-time carer/parent of my young niece, because of both her parents drug and alcohol addictions. i had social services poking their noses into every area of my...

crisare, i think what ceoli and I have at times found challenging with some of your posts and indeed, the posts of several others, have appeared to discount views which are not immediately understood or which are different to yours (plural). while it is fine by me if you (again plural) want to...

i must add this is my experience too, of one of the many differences in culture (very very broadly speaking, and with obvious exceptions) between the US and most of western Europe.

crisare, i would tend to call a lover someone that i go on dates with and hang out with at times other then just when we are having sex. however, having thought about it a bit since reading your question, i am now thinking that actually a fuck-buddy probably is a form of lover, as is a partner...

perhaps it would help for me to add that although i love him, i have never ever been "in love" with him. or would that just confuse things ever more?

i am sorry that you have felt attacked by me. i too have felt attacked, not just by you but by several people on these boards recently. it saddens me to realise that in my pain i have inflicted similar wounds on others. an eye for an eye leaves us all blind, as they say. i am not sure i can...

i could not agree more. of course we have a variety of ways of being polyamorous - i celebrate our diversity i would not want it any other way! what is painful and diversive at times is when we appear to be telling each other that our way is the only way, that another person's way of being...

thank you so much for your words raven, all of them. it means a lot to me to read them and i am sure there is much i can learn from you. i plan to re-read your last post a few times tomorrow and meditate on it all. once again, thank you so much.

@ quila - perhaps this is a difference in language usage between the UK and the US. here we use the phrase "fuck buddy" to mean a buddy who we fuck (aka have sex) with. its a specific kind of friendship because the main or often only activity we would do with our fuck-buddy is have sex...

I particularly love this part of your post. I have been struggling to say exactly this, and have wasted far too many words in my attempts, whereas you have summed it up beautifully and with brevity, an ability I very much admire.

Thank you so much for clarifying that quila. I accept that I may be getting somewhat defensive due to so many negative statements floating about these boards where the fact that I do feel love for people I am not partnered with gets negated and misunderstood. I thoroughly agree with the...

Yes, congratulations to you too, polynerdist! You have written a lovely and very touching message yourself, recognising the value of poly relationships getting the "social legitimacy" they deserve, despite the prejudiced judgements of those outside them, whether in this community or outside...