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Thanks, Ravenesque, I like that quote a lot and am definitely going to seek out further words from this writer now that you have inspired me. The woman credited with first using the word "polyamory" in public did not set out limits on what type of love or relationship she included, so I do find...

LovingRadiance, what are your feelings about the word "polyfidelity"? It sounds like either that or "multi-partner family" describes your situation perfectly, but you don't seem happy with these phrases. Or maybe I am totally misunderstanding your words, in which case, I sincerely apologise. x...

It made me giggle, too. What I am really curious about, though, is whether anyone's mind has been changed or broadened by this debate. Are we actually learning from each other here, or just figuring out who agrees with us and who doesn't, while keeping to our previously-held point of view?

i really hope they are not that small-minded though and that you achieve your dream! it is a great thing to do, very rewarding for all involved and i wish you all the best (when the time is right) x

i have worked as a proof reader many times and would be happy to do so for this project it sounds like a good one! x

Sorry, but isn't at least a little bit of credit due to the children themselves for the test results? I don't mean to take away from the time, work and devotion you put in, but surely they are the ones who do the learning and do the tests?

silly me, i forgot so many of you are in the US where football means something entirely different to what it means here in the UK! was hoping for some chat about "soccer" since my team won yesterday but there you go... x

i have always thought i will adopt one day. some years ago i started to think about the possible ramifications of my experiences in a mental health hospital and got really worried that this would make me unable to adopt. in the end, on the advice of a friend, i phoned my local social services...

i really like this phrase "distancing". this whole discussion feels very relevant to me on lots of levels. my current partner is still friends with his previous partner, and in the summer i was lucky enough to meet her and spend some time with both of them. despite huge nerves beforehand it...

hi subscrisxx how are you doing?

hi yoxi how are you? how's the piano playing? x

why thank you :)

Redpepper, I have been to a few BDSM parties and Iunderstand the nervousness you express very well. However, I'd like to share some stuff I have learnt over the years. Firstly, some of the hottest scenes I have been part of have involved very little in the way of equipment. Others have...

I couldn't agree with you more, Grounded Spirit. It seems to me you are really living up to your name with that post. I hope you don't mind me saying so. I also feel that when I "identify" with poly, it simply means that I am, my partners and are, prepared to engage in multiple meaningful...

Sorry, Mono, my friend. I really don't understand your last post? Who is this "we" who puts vague shit online? On a separate note, I sincerely hope my friends would ask me about my lifestyle if they were curious, rather than surfing the net for answers. But maybe that's just me. As I am always...

Sorry, Mono. I don't mean to be rude about your friendship here. I'm just genuinely shocked at the thought of a close friend coming out with such comments! My own close friends know that I practise safe and ethical sex, and at most, might ask me how I incorporate that into a particular...

Surely ill-informed folk are liable to jump to random conclusions, no matter word you use to express the fact that you are in a relationship other than a monogamous couple? There will always be a need to explain (to those you consider worth the effort) in more detail than one word can give, as...

Perhaps "polyfidelity" might be a useful term for some of the folks worried that they might be mistaken for someone willing to have short-term intimacy with another? Just a thought... I have been reading the words of Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart this evening, the person who first publicly used...

i think the primary love need is to love oneself. if we can achieve that, then any love that comes our way feels like a bonus rather than something we crave in an unhealthy way.

You guys remind me of the mythical king standing at the seashore trying to stop the tide coming in. Like it or not, many people have much broader definitions of words, including love, relationship, and (gasp!) even polyamory. Rather than telling those people they are wrong wrong wrong, and that...