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Fair enough - I know there's know point my saying "If only people would just..." when they don't yet. :) And I own that while I'm here because polyamory seems natural to me, I'm also hyper-jumpy about labels and all the assumptions they can carry - hell, I have enough trouble with "bi", since...

Fair do's :) And of course people don't have to be it to approve of it (in the same way that many millions of people have no problem with others' sexual orientation/s) and ultimately it'd be great to live in a society in which all these options are 'just what some people are into' rather than...

This fascinates me - the world of nomenclature and how the same words can mean different things to different people. I think if I were basically a one-lover-at-a-time person, but happily with (or happy to be with) someone who was polyamorous, I'd feel more comfortable calling myself 'monogamous...

I guess there's always potential for tension between what the kids experience at home about the nature and value of your relationships, and what they hear from peers and the media and culture in general outside of home about what's 'acceptable', and how they preceive themselves as fitting into...

I'm not disagreeing with what anyone else has said here :) - just wanted to add that as a starting point, don't rush yourself or let yourself be rushed - don't let anyone (including yourself) tell you that you "shouldn't" be feeling how you are currently feeling about the situation (fear...

Pleased to meet you :) - padmavyuha

I appreciate that - and I suppose I'm saying: it's a slippery slope, it's as well to be aware that the slope is there to be slipped on. As a refugee from such slopes, I acknowledge that I'm a little hypercautious. I hope that the proposed day keeps its open dimension and has a positive effect.

Eh? Tried to edit my post title, but it only changes in the current post, not for the thread title. Proof-readers always cock up their own spelling. ...and in case it's not immediately apparent, the point is that I'd be wearing the t-shirt, so I'm the first basket case on the list.

A modest proposal This came to me this morning, after a very late night of mulling, a polyamory t-shirt slogan which I feel encompasses the truth about the 'mess in progress,' which is each individual and each relationship. Plus, seasonal for Easter. What do you think? :) don't put all your...

I'm not sure where I come down on this field of discussion, but if there's one thing that's clear to me from reading everything people write on the polysubject here and elsewhere, it's that there is no "we" except in the sense of "we all want/choose to live by a different model from the...

I like bodies in the bed - just can't go to sleep face to face with someone (it's a breath thing).

I always wondered. I think we stole this topic, though - maybe we should hand it back and walk away slowly.

Bob can be our 4thsome - I like the idea of sleeping in a big pile of loves. Warm winters...

I don't teach (brrr... been there, posed that), and funnily enough it's 'books to write' that's keeping me up. I forgive your pp, I had a bomb go off in me nine years ago after my mum died, and during the explosion I got an entire novel dumped in my cortex over the space of three days (a deeply...

By the way, I am fortunate enough to live in a place called Ubley, which is only 2 miles from the legendary village of Nempnett Thrubwell, which holds its own against Albuquerque quite nicely I think.

Nonono, it'd be a tetrahedron - they're pretty! I'm sort of ahead of you on that one, it's just that I've only just got my head/heart around the idea of more-than-two-of-us - and four is a lot to fit in a bed (I'm 6'3", so lots of elbow/knee). No, to be honest it all started pretty selfish, and...

You be careful what you write - I've been known to jump on a plane and learn spanish for less... but at the least, you've made me look up Santa Fe, more logs on the fire of my geographical education. Nice piece of national forest there - what kind of trees in it (not for my fire)? This is the...

This subject interests me a lot right now. Since I'm only newly allowing myself to think about all this consciously, it really only occurred to me after reading some of the posts above that 'of course you can have heterosexual polyamory' (took me a minute to click, V's and so on rather than...

Ah, random isn't as random doesn't - picture a house full of manhattanesque piles, where the first boxes to get unpacked were the books (to make enough floorspace to see inside the rest). Now picture me standing - no, leaning against the chest of drawers in the only floorspot available to take...

Aye - I have a mixture of impatience and caution battling it out, and so I'm not in a hurry and I am too :). It'll happen or it won't - at least I now know that I want it to.