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My experience might be different... I have dated a guy with no dick. As in ftm transexual. He fucked me with hands and toys, very well too. I have also dated women. And I have dated ordinary guys. My experience is; it is surprisingly similar. I guess because I am the same, and I make them aim...

My ex-husband had spontaneous, unprotected sex with a new person. I was in shock for a while, especially since I knew that that new person had a husband that previously had had other sexual partners, etc. I found it very disturbing that they were so careless about protection. While their...

No, there is not. My husband does not smoke tobacco or pot and he only drinks alcohol or smokes a water pipe a couple of times a year. I smoke tobacco/pipe or drink alcohol only once in a while. We have a pretty clean lifestyle. He does, however, have a history of having severe depression in...

This is actually not the case. If my husband does not come back, I will continue to live with my boyfriend only. My boyfriend already brought it up and I again said I will not take another lover besides you. Had my boyfriend left me, and I was still dating my husband, I would also not take...

That is what the therapist said, too. He is making huge decitions against the advice of absolutely everyone. The speed at which he does it make people shake their heads, too. It is hurtful as well as reeks of desperation. It is not like I have been bad-behaved either. I think it actually...

Oh, I have a lot of good feelings for him, even if he is behaving somewhat rough right now. I know he is overwealmed, our friends tells me that all he does is sleep. He told me he started therapy. There is a lot of angry things I would like to say to him, but I tell my diary instead ;)

I would like to point out that both monogamous people and polyamorous people (and really any person) can fall in love with more than one person at a time. It is actually very common for it to happen. I even heard a bishop on the radio talking about how he had been very smitten with other women...

I suppose at a later point in time. It has been, what, two weeks?

Because what he is offering it not a normal life, or a return to the life we used to live.. He has hinted that I might be able to stay with him on probation. So life with him will be begging to stay with a depressed man, who tricked me and himself for two years, is in the middle of a mental...

We both do want to become/remain friends. My husband said about us "it is like we have a kid even if we dont", which make sense somehow. Actually, my husband said as much as that he would like to one day be invited to our wedding (me and the boyfriend). He was like, sure he wants to have kids...

My first divorce was was messy, for a long time. Then slowly I think we just forgave each other. We follow each other on social media a lot. When we have bumped into each other, it felt ok. I have nothing bad to say about my ex now; we were simply not that good a match as lovers. My second...

We may have different stories, but I think mainly it is not about different stories, but having different modes of storytelling. I am very much A - so B - so C - then D, he is more like everything is in flux at any given point and may tell seven versions of the same story, and not get why that...

The challenge with his narrative is, of course, that it touches upon parts of mine. This is challenging. We have only met once since he moved out. It was to fix practical things, which I feel we can do much better over text. I feel it is weird touching him or looking at him. Especially since I...

Thank you. I know that in "theory", we both want to become friends, but in reality things are lot messier. I dont resent his feeling, but I do point it out to him when he gets his facts mixed up. I am happy to let him have his process, I just felt for a while he as usurping my process (I was...

We have met up once, and texted, mainly to fix practical and financial things (we need to finance his new flat, all his stuff is still here). But also to process some stuff about the breakup (follow up of some things that happened when we met up). It is not just that some of his truths hurt; it...

I dont blame him, even if I feel cheated on by the situation. For me to blame him, I would have to think he did anything on purpuse, to hurt me. I dont think that, at all. He tells me he lied even to himself and I belive that is what happened.

But that is where he is wrong. I do want a "normal" life (I entered poly life very reluctantly and only because I fell in love with people I met in daily life). If my husband would have presented me with a choice; choose him or me, I honestly dont know who I would have chosen. They are both...

Husband and I broke up recently - he moved out a few weeks ago. I still see my long term boyfriend, in a different country (although I have not visited him in a while). My husband wanted out, it was not a mutual decition. Poly was one of the biggest concerns, but we also had other issues. I...

I think it is been very helpful to hear people's ideas ideas about the subject. I might start a new thread to clearify some points.

I am not trying to paint a perfect picture of myself. I am aware that I communicate differently from my husband and that I was not sufficiently aware of it. I was trying to think like him and make things easier for him in the ways that I could, but I suppose I ended up thinking too much along my...