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If it were me in a situation like this I would offer her a place to stay if her relationship ended and leave it at that. If she reciprocated your husbands feelings towards her then it would be time for all of you to sit down and hash out what each of you want the dynamic to look like. Likely...

From what I've been reading here it sounds like she isn't giving you much reason to trust her. She's cheated on you and doesn't want to tell the other guy that she's in a relationship with you. Even with every rule or boundary out there if you can't trust someone they're meaningless. If I were...

I miss you this evening too.

I find that to be fluid bonded with anyone that I have to know and trust everyone who is involved right to the edges of the poly configuration. Any time that changes (someone takes on a partner who has many other partners) I'm more than happy to go back to barrier use. I'm not only responsible...

It sounds like your friend is quite free with offering these services. I would guess that it probably just isn't a big deal to her and that's why it didn't come up in conversation with you. Since nothing is happening between your OSO and this friend of yours I think I would just let it go if I...

I just didn't want to be posting things here without checking with you first :p So as you all may have gathered by now I went over to see MBG on the weekend. Her husband has been sick in the hospital for the past 3 months and she's had a lot of other life things going on too. So we've been...

I was going to write about our visit. It was good to see you MBG. You have incredible strength!

Life has a way of working itself out the way it's supposed to. The thought of change is always frightening. The thing is, you're going to have to do what feels right for you. Like you've said to many other people here, there isn't any hurry. I'm pretty sure I'm not just speaking for myself here...

I have a couple of new things in my life that I'm working on at the moment. They are related to each other though which is kind of interesting. The first is that I'm working on getting more in touch with how I feel and once I know how I feel I'm working on expressing it. It's not an easy thing...

People don't tend to post when things are going well. I assure you that there are plenty of moments of polyamourous bliss for many of us on the forum.

Limit the time of the first initial get togethers. Have a definite start and end time for the 3 of you to be together. Talk to both beforehand about how long they would like these initial encounters to be. Also set up a schedule of date times for each of them and then stick to it. You and your...

It could be that you aren't cut out for a poly relationship or it could be that this particular woman didn't jive with you. Take some time to work out the reasons behind what brought up the emotions for you while he was in the secondary relationship. He's been very clear with you right from...

I had the very same fears when my husband and I were first talking about opening up our relationship. Eventually I came to the conclusion of why would I want to be with someone who didn't want to be with me? Monogamy doesn't gaurentee that someone will stay with you, it feels like a safety net...

The only person you can control in any situation is yourself. If he's being unsafe sexually you can insist that he uses condoms with you. For sure he isn't making good desisions right now. He's wrapped up in NRE. Chances are it will pass and once the shine wears off he'll probably wonder why he...

So I haven't written in a really long time on my blog. I read redpeppers latest entry this morning and it got me to thinking that really no one knows what's going on for me. It seems that unless something is really bothering me that I just keep things to myself since I can work it out and it...

Why do you have to be in contact with your metamour to maintain your relationship? If the friendship between you and your metamour is unhealthy that's a problem with that relationship, not a problem with the relationship between you and your partner. If you are going to break off contact with...

If you already know each other well and you're friends just tell her how you feel (without being drunk). The worst thing she can say is that she isn't interested in you in that way. Things might be awkward again for a while but since you've been through it once and maintained the friendship...

What have you decided to do?

Really is there anything wrong with stating exactly what you're looking for and narrowing down the dating pool? There doesn't seem to be a lot of point in dating people who aren't compatible with what you're looking for. If you're vague there are going to be people who reply to you who will feel...

A little more background would be useful. How do you know these women? Where are you meeting them? Are these feeling coming out of friendships that you've already formed or are they random encounter?