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Thanks Galagirl. That gave me a lot to think about. I never thought about my new relationship with my wife as being a poly relationship. That makes a lot of things clearer for me. I think both of us talking and working on the opening up worksheet is going to help with our own relationship a lot.

Thanks for the response Evie. For right now regular old sex is off the table. We actually did have a conversation yesterday where she said she might be interested in trying new things we have not done before. We talked about a few things we have never done, and we were both excited about those...

Hoping for some advice from this wonderful board. My wife (married for 20 years) and I have had plenty of good and supportive discussions about opening our previously monogamous relationship for the past 2 months. She was the initiator. It hurt a lot in the beginning but now I realize it was...

When we first started talking about opening our relationship I was in the (self-limiting) mental space of: 1) Thinking nobody else would want a relationship with me (low self esteem, not having my own identity). 2) Thinking in terms of scarcity as far as the number of women open to wanting a...

Hi Emmjay. For me it was realizing my co-dependencies with my partner. For 22 years my feeling of value for myself was tied directly to my partner. I did not have a good relationship with myself. I did not love myself, I felt without my partner I was worthless, nobody would ever love me the way...

I have very recently been in a similar situation. While everybody's relationships are different I think there are enough commonalties with my own situation that may be helpful to you. For me coming to terms with my partner of 22 years wanting to be free to connect with others (both men and...

I am excited to join this community! My partner (38F) and I (45M) have been in a monogamous relationship for 22 years. After many years of just coasting along on societal expectations of what a successful marriage is, as well as a hefty amount of co-dependency, we have both for the first time...