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Opalescent, I completely understand your concerns, and appreciate the thoughtful way in which you worded them. I respect the space created here, and the general tone of the discussions. It's important to have spaces for communities outside the mainstream, and I have no wish to slowly take over a...

I know that if I cannot eliminate doubt in myself - founded or unfounded - I will need to end the relationship. I cannot continue to hold him hostage to his past, and I cannot violate my own boundaries by choosing to stay AND feeding the gnawing Mice of Doubt. Before a few weeks ago, I was...

Thank you, Ravenscroft! I realize my post above is a fairly bog-standard monogamy issue. What boggles me about my partner's past is the lying and cheating, when there was no need for it. I couldn't understand why he wouldn't actively choose ethical non-monogamy and fuck all the ethically...

I'll go ahead and ask, and if it's deemed inappropriate, I'm happy to have the discussion curtailed. I'll warn in advance that I'm often set to Maximum Verbosity. BACKGROUND: My sweetie & I have been together for nine months. New still, but well-established. The choice of monogamy was...

Hello, lovely forum users. Long-time listener, first-time caller. I've been voraciously reading past threads for years now, and by doing so, have gained a great deal of insight and perspective on communication in healthy relationships. I am struggling with an issue in my monogamous...

GalaGirl, I've been reading your posts for years now. You're kind, strong, and a clear communicator. You have a gift for presenting information in a way that other people can receive and understand. When I read your posts, I get a clear picture of a grounded, sensible, loving human being. If we...

Hi, Zeggplant. I'm a long-time lurker and newer member here. I've also struggled with ADD for the entirety of my life. If you'd ever like to chat about resources, strategies, or meds, I'd be happy to share what I've learned.

another thought Also, my partner is attracted to ME, not just my body. He's been with more beautiful women. Those relationships didn't work for him, as those beautiful women didn't offer him the stability, openness, kindness & clear communication that I do. He loves that he is able to feel...

unreasonable beauty standards Hello, Spork! This is my very first post on this forum. I've been lurking here for a couple of years, and, over the fast few weeks, I have read your blog in its entirety. I feel compelled to weigh in on your most recent post. The thing that stands out for me...