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    old hand facing new issues

    How do you live your life in your work town apart from (not) dating?
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    Highly sensitive person and poly

    Now you are not talking about recognizing a personality trait, but the strategy on how to cope with it. You are describing times where someone told you you took something to personal and you agreed. Sometimes that strategy is useful. At other times it is not. People who are HSP can use good or...
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    Predator-Proofing Your Life

    The problem with these kinds of specific warnings is that they are taken out of context are bad at seperating the little annoying stuff from the really bad. And also they can easily backfire, as in it can just as well be about interpretation. For instance: Someone saying they are not in a...
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    Helping the new guy (Need suggestions please!)

    Ten years IS a long time. For adult relationships. But basically, Nate is jealous because you and Seth used to date when you were 12 years old? That seems a bit...odd. You have had an adult relationship for a couple of years. But anyway, there is nothing you can do to make up for having known...
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    Is polyamorism in men correlated with sex drive?

    Men also typically report having a lower libido or/and a reduced capasity for sex when they are working full time (in a job that demands results) and possably also caring for kids. It doesn't matter how high your libido was to begin with if you have a lack of sleep/restoring energy. You seem on...
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    Highly sensitive person and poly

    Cluster B is the section of personality disorders that tend to make the most trouble for people around them - hence they are more talked about. They are also called the dramatic personality disorders. From Wikipedia on personality disorders: Cluster B (dramatic, emotional or erratic disorders)...
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    Being the Newbie to a poly couple- long distance

    I have been in an international LDR for nearly two years. What works for us is: - daily texts (we use an app to save money. plus for easy to send emicons and sending Pictures) - Skyping 1-5 days a week - sceduling visits in advance. I usually buy the next ticket before going on a travel. Then we...
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    Predator-Proofing Your Life

    The problem is that if you have bad self esteem, you might misread slight misbehaviour or even normal behaviour as someone mistreating you. My ex would feel bad and sometimes think I did that to her, when really she was hearing things that were never said and she felt like if I was better at...
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    Ex, new people, busy lives.

    Sorry, but if he has a demanding job, kids and plural relationships, he can't have a time consuming hobby as well and feel upset he doesn't have time for you. It just doesn't work like that. If he wants you he has to find the time to see you.
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    Is polyamorism in men correlated with sex drive?

    You in another thread described you you pre-kids had daily sex and enjoying it. It doesn't sound at all that you are demi-sexual. Connection sex to love in a relationship is very usual and has got little do do with demi-sexual as a version of asexuality. I am a woman who has never had non string...
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    Is there evidence to rebut this monogamous argument?

    Sure, I was only reffering to what he said. You don't seem demisexual to me. It seems that you don't really have differences in libido, just differences in work load (both that you work more and take more responsability for the kids. It seems it would be easy for him to change the situation, if...
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    Highly sensitive person and poly

    High sensitive is NOT pathology, it is not a diagnosis and the books that are out there on the subject focus on how you yourself can get Insight in how you work and how you best can take care of yourself and interact with others. There has been written a lot about high sensivitivy before in...
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    Being the Newbie to a poly couple- long distance

    Seeing each other once a month is actually quite a lot for a long distance relationship. The relationship is new, and getting better at staying in touch over the distance might take time. I have been in an international long distance relationship and we see each other one week a month (exept for...
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    Highly sensitive person and poly

    Just to clairify, HSP is NOT a diagnosis, it is a cluster of personality traits that one can deal with better of worse. I usually feeling less sensitive in my daily life as I deal with it well, that doesn't mean my personality is not wired towards noticing every little detail.
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    New and don't know how to proceed

    I don't think your wife is in love with the new girl. I think she is in love with the new you. It is nice that she is supportive of the relationship. But it is not for you to ask your girlfriend this. If she, over time, is truely interested, she can meet her and ask her herself.
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    Am I really poly?

    It surely needs a lot of NRE to overlook video gaming.
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    Poly girlfriend dating a monomgmous guy

    So he is not against poly per se, just against you having a vocal sexual interest in their relationship.
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    Highly sensitive person and poly

    I am a HSP and introvert, but I have no issues with things in poly, perhaps because I am aways used to working on myself and on communication. When my husband dated I met her.
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    Asexual Poly?

    Other options would be someone experienced in sickness coping, or couple's theraphy/family therapy.
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