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WELL DUH. I think that TRUE equality in any relationship... not just triads, quads, V's etc, is impossible. Even Fairness is over rated. What it is that it seems to work best is Balance. Everyone having as much of their needs met as possible and A general happiness that comes with it.

*points at Aussielover* Looks a bit like that. :P

Funny the reference I had used before editing was "turbo charging" an already awesome car. :P

Yep. I disagree that we dont hear the "thirds" view alot round here... We recently had Sweetie, GreenGecko and Of course we have Aussielover... All "thirds" making it work in their own ways. And Of Course Mono... The Third who isnt a third. ;) And I think be "enhancing" the relationship LR...

This was added to the original post yesterday. Maybe it will answer some of that For you.

this!

Me too. Even losing over a hundred pounds..Its miles too big. I wear a different ring to keep it from slipping off.

Dude..Wrong tree to bark up. Just sayin. :)

You and Me both.

Yes and spoke about being Fair. Unfortunately, As you pointed out there is no fairness in the legal constitution that is marriage. Sucks but thats how it is. To me its a personal thing I guess. One commitment and One commitment. To Different Commitments BOTH very important. Not easy but when...

Honestly ..Its because all your considering in that post are the legal remifications. Which as I pointed out can be very easily solved. When it comes to commitment and the symbol of said commitment, Legalities are irrelevent. Think of it from Vi's point of vew. HMA asked her to be his wife...

Me too. 100% Again this. Perhaps I am Monogamously wired. And I was just lucky to love two people. Cause I dont seem to see things the way some others do... But Maybe its just the label I don't fit.

Perhaps not intentionally. To me it sounds like you think it IS a case of All or none when it comes to "marriage". To me it sounds like that you think that Violet is wrong/inconsiderate for wanting that symbol of commitment.My thoughts are commitment is only as good as the People...

I dont think Of my Marriage as my ring at all. To Me its Symbol of that commitment I made. That's why its important to me.

Ok then, so If Anne and HMA Decide to have children..That legal binds them Regardless. That is how the law sees that. To me that itself is a HUGE sign of commitment. So Why Should Violet not have that ( commitment) too. REGARDLESS of her desire not to have children. HMA and Her have/will make...

Perhaps a Balance is what you striving for. Things should be balanced. That all involed should have balance. I don't think that Things like taking off wedding rings.. A rg is a sign of commitment. Sure its fair for you to be married... You and HMA made the Choice to make that Commitment...

Sorry to Me.. fair and Equal Are two different things.

I dont think you would have to remove your wedding ring. That Commitment you made ( or will make) Is still a commitment you made to him. I still wear my wedding rings. I HAVE made that Commitment to my Husband AND my children when we got married. I think equality is what works for all of you...

We have a Poly Fi Triad. Just because that how it worked out. We were originally sorta a quad. BUT Again this isnt something we seeked out. It kinda just happened. Wern't looking.. It found us. No desire on anyones part to add anyone else.

Ok not so much a members only club. Just a place where those of us who are regulars could post photos etc. Say with 10 post count limit. So its not too exclusive. Just for those who plan to stick around!