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I'm not really sure how I'm doing, I guess. I feel pretty stable mentally (which after my first (and hopefully last) major depressive episode feels great. But Billie and I are at odds, and I'm 'forcing' her to move out (ie paying for her tuition at her first choice school and a living allowance...

That diminishing, not trusting anything you say without confirmation thing that Maca does IS a form of abuse. I think it's a form of gaslighting. My dad used to do that to my mom, and it did terrible things to her self-image and self-esteem.

Sparklepop's post is brilliant :) I don't have her history (14m in for us, but we have no plans to move, this will be the shape of our relationship for the next decade or so). I'm a HUGE believer in sharing the mundane. Our morning texts are generally 'what are you doing today?' And our...

I'm just going to 'ditto' Kevin and Galagirl's posts. They wrote pretty much everything I was going to say. But I'll add: I'm LDR with Mal, and it's just about 14 months now. I'm SUPER blunt about what I need regarding communication, and when it tapers off I tolerate it for a bit (if I know...

So very perfect.

Lack of effort. If you are *trying* I will be behind you 150%. If you are not? Frak it. I'm out. :/ (might be because of a bit of Billie-drama in my life right now...)

If *you* would feel more comfortable with your own room you should get one. Sheering a hotel room for 3 days can be pretty intimate, and if you find its awkward on day one its not going to get better!

At Djinn and Mals house, and things are really good between me and each of them. Between the two of them however... not so much. They aren't fighting, which is nice, but I think they've given up. They aren't fighting not because there is no disagreements, but because they don't care enough to...

Even though I'm effectively mono right now (and likely to continue being so for some time) I self identify as solopoly, and your blog has always been an inspiration for me in that way. I'm confused, though, about how being collared by a man who doesnt want you to date or love or even camp with...

Still no drama since last visit! Djinn and I have been working closely in an area where our separate businesses overlap, and that is also going very well. We have two more visits planned and plane and entertainment tickets purchase for September and October. Then probably not until December...

Oh, It's real all right. He admitted it. http://www.someecards.com/entertainment/celebrities/josh-duggar-hypocrite/

Enjoy might be the wrong word, but yes, I've never believed that they were are 'good' as they made themselves out to be. Self righteous ness never pays off.

Having sustained a LDR for a year now, I have to agree with Kevin, LDRs are hard to maintain. We do a few things that seem to work: -texts, a lot. (And some emails). Because they don't have to be concurrent we text whenever we feel like it, with the understanding that return texts can come...

Djinn is back home with Mal and The Kids. This is usually the time (post visit) when she feels insecure and the drama begins. But so far so good. We had a nice long (make me late for work) chat this morning, and she seems ok. She told me that she feels like she 'broke' me. That I was't...

Laundry! The never ending! I got home early Friday morning from Mal's. Djinn was away for the last half of the visit, and it was heavenly. It is so easy to be with him. We had one of The Kids (m7), while Djinn and Aladdin were away with the other one (f12). He had to work, so mostly I had lazy...

It drives Mal insane that I don't cum. He is a great lover, and I enjoy everything we do, but it can take hours (or longer) of masturbation for me to cum at all... That he's managed it twice in our relationship is more than I've ever cum with anyone else. Ever. I'd he kept banging away like that...

In the middle of my two weeks at Djinn and Mal's house. I'm loving every minute of it. I feel happy and secure. Djinn left today with one of The Kids, and Aladdin. Mal and I have the other Kid m(7), and most of a week to ourselves. I lab to enjoy it all!

I have received some great wisdom, here and in other places about this issue. And I plan to approach it with companion and respect over then next couple of weeks. Max, especially, has clearly put a lot of thought into how I should approach this, and while I don't agree with you, Max, about what...

I'll just leave this here:

Really? Because that is exactly how I feel about you. Our poly is NOT your poly. Not everyone has a group relationship. We don't. It's more like a string. Stop trying to force your idea of 'ideal poly' on other people. I'm sick of telling you that the way your relationship(s) work is not the...