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Thanks for all the responses. When I say "allowed" I mean that is what we have discussed and come to an agreement on. I've told Jules it's okay to date freely. And if someone comes along he is interested in on a deeper level, then I am not stopping him from pursuing her. I'm sure it will be a...

Hi everyone. I hope all is well. I thought others might be able to benefit from a discussion about this topic I've had on my mind for a while-- crushes and lust. I have a bf and a gf. I am the hinge in the V, and none of us date anyone else. Jules is allowed freedom to flirt, kiss, fuck...

Time management - especially with the holidays How do you deal with it? My parents want me to come over for Xmas Eve. My bf Jules wants me to spend all of Xmas Day with his family, and my gf Aimee expects me to be home on Xmas Day, as well. She is feeling especially needy because she doesn't...

We used to have a pretty good sex life. I liked having sex with him. I was flirty and more passionate. But I never felt the passion sexually I have with Aimee. It was never the #1 best part of our relationship. I used to be more into sex when we first started dating, and Jules was the one who...

Hey, thanks for your responses. I discussed this with my therapist. She agrees if I'm gonna talk to him about it, I should be ready to think about and explain why maybe I am still interested in men, that maybe it's not a gay-straight thing. I think what really bothered me the most about having...

Well, he wouldn't prefer it, but it's what is working for us right now, and keeping there from being awkward uncomfortable tension on my end. We love each other, and want to be together always, but the sex part wasn't working for me anymore. So we are focusing on other things together right...

Hey. I've posted here a few times in the past about my relationships. I have a bf, Jules, of 6 years and a gf, Aimee, of two year. Things are going pretty well. The last time I was here, I was agonizing over my sexual feelings (or lack thereof) for Jules. I wasn't sure if I was gay or what...

Well, that went fucking AWFUL. :cry: Jules is so angry and hurt to hear that I could possibly feel this way, and have let things go on for so long, that I've left him behind. I love him so much. This is so completely painful. I have no idea what to do with myself. I'm scared I've made or...

Sparklepop, I can relate a ton with what you posted. I'm 22. I have admitted since I was 12 that I was attracted to women. I lost my virginity to and have slept with many more women than men, and dated a few. I just know I am primarily into girls. Of all my boyfriends in the past, I have never...

I'm not asking for sugarcoating. I obviously am in a fog, as I said. I need truth and reality and insight I have not been able to find for myself. Keep it coming, please. This is a very difficult time for me. I need to think things through once and for all and quit avoiding everything. Thank...

Hi, It's been a long few weeks, again (and a long year, really). I ended up explaining to Jules what had happened. I apologized for leaving him out of such a big decision. I'd gotten caught up. He deserves more respect and attention than I've been giving him. I don't know why I keep pushing...

Thanks for the responses. I know I fucked up. I feel I am living two separate lives sometimes. I feel so overwhelmed and lost, because no matter what I do, things are going to change and feelings are going to be hurt. I wish this was easier!!! But it's not, and I know it won't be. I need to...

Hi again, Feel free to read my other posts if you'd like more of a back story. Long story short, I've been with my boyfriend Jules for 5 and a half years, started dating my girlfriend Aimee a year and a half ago. This is my first serious girlfriend and first serious poly relationship. I fell...

Hey, This is kind of a silly topic but one I'm sure many of you have thought of! Any way, I've been with my bf for 5+ yrs so he has always been on my facebook profile as "in a relationship with ___." I've been w my gf for a yr & a half and she feels understandably as if she might seem less...

Um, yes, obviously. I prefer to think before I speak. No need to be mean about it. That happened last week, before I started posting here again. Then today he happened to bring that up, and that's what I meant in my last post by "here we are." As in, it's happening, the conversation I've been so...

Thanks for your responses. I think, no matter what happens, this is going to be excruciatingly hard. Last week, he was being very affectionate with me, so I was just going with it, because I love seeing him happy. And today he tells me that meant a lot to him, because he's been worried I am...

Thanks all for the responses. I never got to reply back after I originally posted this. It has been 3 months and I am struggling still. I really appreciate some of the helpful things said here. I do love my bf deeply. I always will. I can't imagine my life without him in it. He makes me feel...

Hey, thanks for reading. My gf and I have been dating for 10 months, so maybe it could be NRE. I don't know. I just feel so distant. I can usually talk to him about anything, but now I feel like I am hiding things, hiding my feelings about him. It makes me sad, and I don't know what I'm...

*Long post warning* I posted my story here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=8929 (To summarize, I've been with my bf Jules close to 5 yrs, and my gf Aimee almost 1 year now.) Here is something I posted explaining my confusion in another thread: Well, my feelings aren't...

An update... In case any of you were wondering, I did it. About a month and a half ago, I just woke up one day and decided today would be the day. So I called my mom up and we went out to lunch, as we often do. I ordered a drink and kept trying to think of ways to bring it up, but just kinda...