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Magdlyn: Thanks for the kind words. I am very proud of R for doing something I know is very difficult and painful for him, and I'm hoping that he finds healthy ways to process. We haven't heard much of anything else from them since I posted. I'm not sure if that's worse or better than if...

That's a tough call on what to divulge. I would say the laws surrounding medical confidentiality are pretty strict though. You would almost certainly have a case if a medical professional leaked anything that in any way caused harm to your life.

The questions are limitless. New ones are being added all the time. You'll never get to the end of them all.

One thing I have found success doing is putting in my profile that I AM NOT looking for a partner through this website and to please not solicit me for such purposes. I've stopped getting messages from random people since I did that. Otherwise, it probably just depends what is going on in...

The best luck in our area is to meet up with the local community. They have a group on Facebook, Meetup, and Yahoo and are starting their own nonprofit. I know not all areas have such a strong community presence, but a Google search might help you out. If there is nothing in your area...

Indeed, this is what I was trying to get at.

How long have you been together with BF?

It sounds like you and your boyfriend really need to sit down and have an honest discussion about your desires and intentions in this relationship, and to figure out what you will and will not agree to. If he is poly, and if he is in NRE, he may be likely to agree to things that don't settle...

You may need to engage in some trial-and-error if and when the time comes. Chances are, you and your wife won't both find a new partner at the same time. Maybe one of you develops something long distance, which means you won't be going out on regular date nights, but need to plan for weekend...

Short note, in the one paragraph I meant cock ring*, not cock right. Learning to talk about sex and sexuality might be a good place to start. Some things you might try: 1) Tell your wife what you just told me. Even opening up that much vulnerability paired with the desire and intent to...

:-/ If you identify as mono, how is it that you had a boyfriend separate from your husband? I'm not sure I'm following the details. Is there another topic from earlier issues?

NRE is a lovely drug.

That's a rough situation, and two months is REALLY new. It's normal to feel a huge discrepancy in passion between a new partner and an older one, but it sounds like your wife might really have her head in the clouds on this one. Unfortunately, there might not be much you can do other than...

How long have she and her GF been together? You said they've been flirting for five years, but how long since the threesome/decision to become polyamorous?

You are going through a very challenging process right now, but believe me when I say that you are approaching it with the right attitude. There are going to be times when it seems overwhelming, and times when you wonder what the hell you've gotten yourself into, but it is so important that you...

You are spot on, Cleo. The relationship isn't healthy and it never has been. My MIL is actually really depressing because as much as she makes me crazy, I can see how miserable of a world she lives in. She never says anything without screeching it and the whole family treats her like she is...

It sounds like the two of you generally have an awesome relationship. I think the point that I am trying to make is that sometimes our fears about something are realistic in some ways and aren't in others. For the most part, any feeling of safety you have with not losing your wife isn't...

I think R could benefit from a counselor, but I'm not sure how willing he is to get into it. We tried seeing a counselor together a while back and he continued on his own with the guy for a while, but as the guy was not particularly poly experienced it didn't end up being very helpful in the...

I am doing my best to stay out of it other than when he wants to talk to me about it. There are some complicating factors like the fact that they tried to contact my parents about it (this has also happened before, there is no sense of boundaries and they treat us like kids on play dates rather...

Hey I wanted to reach out and say that I have been through vaginismus so I know a lot about sexual pain disorders and might have some good resources if you need them. Glad to hear you are finding something that works for you though.