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Not hyperbolic. Preachy, perhaps. Navel-gazing isn't helpful or useful.

I've already told you I disagree with this statement, and yet you persist on repeating it. This is not the opening of some huge and grand inquiry into further life-fulfillment for us, at least not as we are seeing it. This is the chance for me to explore an accidentally sprouted relationship...

I disagree with your whole premise, although I understand what you are saying. I feel we more took the lid of a box, stared at the innards, and decided to lift one thing out to try on as a possibility. If that doesn't fit, there's nothing that says we need to revisit the box. The same as...

Thanks. That was sort of how I felt, especially as I was polite and courteous to his first, rather unhelpful post that seems to equate parity in relationships (impossible in any situation, more-so between a self-identified introverted-physically-oriented-straight-mono guy and his...

I did ask for feedback, and he gave some. I thanked him for it, and explained my situation a bit further, including the fact that DH has boundaries for me in my possible relationship with CG, and reiterating that DH has not, as yet, expressed an interest in ever having an additional...

I'm going to disagree with you there, actually. While we may not be able to take back the knowledge and self-reflection we have thus-far learned, if CG decides that she does not want to pursue this in a manner in which we can all agree is acceptable, or if it starts and then ends, both he and I...

Thanks for the other post. At this time, he has stated it is not something he wants, and I see that there are many on this board who remain utterly mono while their spouses do not. That may be where we end up. I rather hope it is. Nonetheless, I know it is a possibility that he will become...

I'm sorry you came to poly the way you did. The whole situation (cheating and lying) sucks. I'm also sorry your husband can't seem to respect boundaries that the two of you have agreed upon. This is the gf who is m-to-f, right? Just making sure I have the stories straight. In my new and...

Thanks. I guess I feel like it is only fair for me to think about it, even a bit, as he's done so much mental work on this for me. Here's what I've come up with so far. * I'd be less panicked if DH had any interest in dating a guy. Yeah, I know, it is somewhat sexist of me, but there's a...

The image I got was of that creepy baby skull in his avatar duking it out with the eyeball in mine. Lovely! :eek:

Best intro, ever I think you and I would be great friends in real life. Either that, or my snobbery and your pretension would conflict and we'd hate one another to the point of concerns about homicide. :)

So, a few of you have responded to my intro post and to my post describing an aversion to the incredibly broad "poly label." You have no idea how much that kind of supportive, honest discussion means to someone so new and lost. Or maybe you do. Either way, thank you. So, short version: DH...

I wanted it to be different than my others I normally use one of two names online, and for my semi-anonymous political blogs I use a third. I wanted this to be absolutely disconnected, and sat down to figure out how exactly I felt. The name, while not as creative as I'd have wished for...

Morning Hey! I had the moment you're having after I'd been married about 5 years. Then, I sat and discussed it at a theory with DH for another 4 years, before falling a bit for my best (girl) friend. That pushed the "poly discussion" into the realm of a real chat, and we've been at this...

Ummm... Schizophrenia has specific behaviors and symptoms. So does Bipolar disorder and chronic depression and...well, so does BPD. Having loved (in a platonic sense) people with all of these issues, I can honestly say that a BPD diagnosis would be a deal-breaker for me. I'd veto them if DH...

I'm still a little new to be embracing it, I think, but it is good to know that it is a flexible and accepting culture.

I have. She's unsure about the whole thing as she does the random-making-out with strangers thing with people she's not into, but since we already have a rather important relationship, she had to figure out if she has romantic/physical leanings in my direction. Told me she's thinking, and so I...

I am very anxious, and I think that's a huge part. She's being reserved, which is fine but new for her. He's wonderful, as always. I just haven't "dated" in 15 years and the up-in-the-air makes me nervous and antsy. This would be good to hear from her. He does that kind of reassuring all...

Much better. She apparently had me sectioned off into an off-limits part of her brain, due to the monogamy label and it threw her for a bit of a loop. Also, since I'm one of her best friends, it isn't like taking up a casual fling. Plus, the campsite rule of "leaving people better than how...

Yeah, I'm starting to get that. Thanks for the info. I've read Opening Up, so has DH, but the other resources are nice. Pretty much, that. She's busy with her BF, and is willing to explore this...but later. Later is left ambiguous, and I feel off kilter after having been in marriage where...