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Your comments were very helpful and I always like to hear your opinion. I made some notes the past days, to learn about myself, what I can learn from the past and what is good for me and for everyone involved, now. It happened before, this situation. Once I was going out with a woman, exactly...

As I'm settling my former relationship in a good way (we might even remain friends), I'm happy to feel free. Now I got to know a marvelous woman, Johanna, and we talked for a while and there were quite a few similarities. I really felt attrackted to her and I believe, she likes me, too. We...

Thanks a lot you for the answers here's my reply I told Claudia before I went visiting my friend, what I wrote in my other post. I will spend about 3 month without going out with her and likely date other women/ start a relationship. Meanwhile she can think about her opinion of a poly...

recent changes I talked to Claudia and said, I don't want to be in a relationship with her for the next months and that in any way, I won't be mono. She should first deal with her problems without blaming me and second consider, if she wants to be in a poly relationship. She kind of ignored...

This is not quite correct. In illness, the disruption, that can't manifest otherwise, shows itself in a different apparition. One could say, illness ist the disruption unified, but, as we know, it's not the solution, it's more like an expression of an antagonism. Touch and making love are ways...

The Problem is not sex and touch (united), they are good for us. The problem is that, what happens around the erotic part. We behave and think like piggy banks, our (social) values get decreased or increased. This society is based on flaw or deficit, so everyone seeks to get enough for oneself...

I was thinking just a few hours ago, what we experience directly by our skin is true, the information we exchange with words is less real. Our whole body is a unity. I believe when we touch each other, our bodies communicate with each other as well as our minds, our souls...It's all one. And...

True. I will miss her, but what else can I do? May be she finds someone else, who deals with her in a different way, so she doesn't get abusive any more, who shows her things she needs to see, that I couldn't communicate to her. I tried a lot to save our love relationship, it's too much for me...

What do I mean with my inner love? What I think about myself and about others has an influence on the reality that is created. I watch my inner dialogue and give myself a positive imput. Just like a lover who supports me, comforts me, helps me to find a better way. In this way I can change the...

What do you know about this matter? Let me tell you my story: This is the continuation of my two other threads (search this forum for "imagination"). In short, my girl friend Claudia and me were involved in a few threesomes with a friend of mine and she fell in love with him (one could say)...

Who is further interested in this approach may look at: http://www.spkpfh.de/index_english.html

Here is a summary about a patients movement (Socialist Patients collective) that started around 1970 when some doctors and patients in a psychiatry began to cooperate on an equal level. Among many other topics, they encourage people to live a free sexuality – if they feel like it- and at the...

Why can't they meet without me? The situation improves. Claudia is visiting me right now. But I don't understand why Claudia and Jan want to meet only when I'm there, too. They can't give me an answer. I mean, it is great to be together as three once in a while, but why do they want to be...

I had that experience recently. Expect deep feelings. Feeling fear and joy (and learning more about yourself) can be very close together. That's what I feel and know. I would do it again. As your partner supports you and loves you deeply, it will make it easier for you. I guess we haven't...

This. Making love changes everything. I've noticed that from time to time, too, but forgot to think about it. I wonder why making love changes a relationship so much? Even the vibrations between Claudia and me, and Jan and me have changed in a strange way. It's hard to explain. One could say we...

My partner said that she couldn't have imagined doing something like this and that she learned a lot from it. Entering a new area can, of course, cause some trouble, and sometimes communication goes the wrong way. I'm confident we will both grow from this process of new answers and questions. I...

I feel better already, just to socialize with some friends and people I know, without even talking about it, helped. This whole story is ridiculous.

Hello Mono. Thank you very much for your thread. It makes me understand my situation better.

This is a continuation of "How to turn a monogamous relationship into a poly relationship or friendship." I started a new thread to focus more on the present situation. I have a partner, Claudia. We've been together for a year and a half now. She is in her mid-twenties. I'm in my late thirties...

That's an interesting remark. I believe it's true when love, caring and devotion is involved. Sleeping around just to compensate low self esteem or because one can only feel lust while having sex might lead somewhere else, this can be bad for others and for yourself. A person must know what one...